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24 Apr 2017 04:03 PM
24 Apr 2017 04:03 PM
Ok so this has set me off the rails and it set it off all the time.
The person who abused more than once and did othr things to me is the father of my youngest sister. He often sends a card at her birthday, easter and christmas but at easter and xmas he often sends a card but writes just to then our names from his name.
This time however he wrote to me and said to my name then love from dad- his name.
Its making me feel very sick and bringing up a lot of memories and sensations and its disgusting me. I cant stand being in my own body. I feel really gross
i can see what was happening to me. i can feel it. the memories are really strong and i can see everything that was being done to me and its making me feel quite sick
@Former-Member@Adge@Appleblossom@Faith-and-Hope
24 Apr 2017 05:47 PM
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24 Apr 2017 06:31 PM
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24 Apr 2017 07:22 PM
24 Apr 2017 07:22 PM
Hi @Former-Member ....
It means that if you choose to do one thing it will lead to awkward questions or outcomes that mean your mother finds out what happened. If you choose to do another thing, then it is safer in terms of your mother not finding out, but more difficult to live with in another sense, It doesn't sound like any of your choices are easy, so you probably need to go with the one that is easiest to live with, in terms of priorities.
It sounds to me like your highest priority is your mother not finding out.
Have you talked this over with your psychologist ?
Do you feel it has helped you to be able to tell us about the card ?
💙
24 Apr 2017 07:40 PM
24 Apr 2017 07:40 PM
oh ok @Faith-and-Hope now i get it
yes i dont want my mum to find out either
no i havent as yet F&H im just about to start with another psychologist in the next few weeks but until then i dont have a psychologist
yeah i guess it has, at least people on here understand
i just... i dont know what to do anymore
24 Apr 2017 08:01 PM
24 Apr 2017 08:01 PM
It can sure feel like that sometimes @Former-Member ... I know I feel it in our situation .... but I keep moving forward in baby steps, knowing that we will get to a better place. Solutions and healing take time, and it's not a smooth path.
Distractions, self-soothing activities like drawing and colouring, etc all help to get us there ....
Hugs .... 💙💐💕
24 Apr 2017 08:14 PM
24 Apr 2017 08:14 PM
i wish i was older and wiser @Faith-and-Hope then id hopefully know what to do
16 Jun 2017 11:04 PM
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