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05 Oct 2017 06:21 PM
05 Oct 2017 06:21 PM
I hope you had a cry on your girlfriends shoulder @Faith-and-Hope. Please do something for you tonight, you deserve it.๐๐
05 Oct 2017 06:31 PM
05 Oct 2017 06:31 PM
06 Oct 2017 06:15 PM
06 Oct 2017 06:15 PM
@Faith-and-Hope It's not fair, but you know that, sometimes we are still caught up in the male first ego, but you are equal, important, valued, cared for, I deliberately don't use the love word as I know nothing about it, but care really sits well with me. A tick is fine as I know you are scarce atm. Sending warm thoughts.๐
06 Oct 2017 06:30 PM
06 Oct 2017 06:30 PM
06 Oct 2017 06:57 PM
06 Oct 2017 06:57 PM
@Faith-and-Hope Probably stating the obvious here, but have you read ' The dissociative identity disorder sourcebook, by Deborah Bray Haddock? One of the best in my own opinion. My counsellor has taken a VERY gentle approach allowing communication if the kids want to talk. It's never been forced or coerced, just happened. It took months to trust as everyone else gave up and a very strange happening really that made us realise she was different. She mentioned the word anger once and I/we smashed her windows in. I'm not a violent aggressive person at all, quite the opposite but this set the scent for acceptance. We expected her to call the police and have us admitted, instead kindness gentleness and a drive home were what we received. We knew we had found someone who cared. For us someone who would stand with us, not walk away was just as important as being heard and believed. I hope I'm not rambling and wasting your time here, but sometimes someone inside might have every reason for feeling the anger. I had NO childhood memories at all, even now it's fragments, but I'm on the extrem end of the illness/disorder or whatever people choose to call it. I'll leave it here just in case I'm off track. ๐๐
06 Oct 2017 07:06 PM
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06 Oct 2017 07:13 PM
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06 Oct 2017 07:38 PM
06 Oct 2017 07:38 PM
@Faith-and-Hope My counsellor and I have always kept two journals. We exchange each week. The older ones sometimes write there, the younger ones have done collages, as you can see, spelling is an issue.lol. They cut out stick and past, and amazing communication comes through. Also reading children's books, kicking leaves, jumping in puddles. Small seems strange, but the simple things seem to work for us. I little one loves parties, so my counsellor brings a mobile party. A snake, Freddie chocolate frog fizzy drink. I'm letting it all hang out here, just trying to help. It's not as complicated as most make out, they are usually traumatised kids, pushing you away but hoping you'll stay. Do something for you @Faith-and-Hope Counsellors can go home, you are home.๐๐๐
06 Oct 2017 07:47 PM
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