@Faith-and-Hope Probably stating the obvious here, but have you read ' The dissociative identity disorder sourcebook, by Deborah Bray Haddock?  One of the best in my own opinion. My counsellor has taken a VERY gentle approach allowing communication if the kids want to talk. It's never been forced or coerced, just happened. It took months to trust as everyone else gave up and a very strange happening really that made us realise she was different. She mentioned the word anger once and I/we smashed her windows in. I'm not a violent aggressive person at all, quite the opposite but this set the scent for acceptance. We expected her to call the police and have us admitted, instead kindness gentleness and a drive home were what we received. We knew we had found someone who cared. For us someone who would stand with us, not walk away was just as important as being heard and believed. I hope I'm not rambling and wasting your time here, but sometimes someone inside might have every reason for feeling the anger. I had NO childhood memories at all, even now it's fragments, but I'm on the extrem end of the illness/disorder or whatever people choose to call it. I'll leave it here just in case I'm off track. 💕💕