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14-07-2020 01:42 AM
14-07-2020 01:42 AM
How do I maintain?
Finding it hard to deal with everyday decisions in my job, my relationship & sick of burdening my friends/family. I know what I need to do but how do I actually make the changes when I have to rip my family apart for the sake of giving myself a happy existence?
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14-07-2020 06:07 AM
14-07-2020 06:07 AM
Re: How do I maintain?
@lyn255 Welcome.
Things are sounding really tough for you right now. Knowing what you need to do to make a happy life, which sounds like it will affect others, is a tricky place to be. I’m sorry the choice is such a difficult one.
I don’t know if you have any professional support in place, but it can certainly be helpful.
Take care.
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14-07-2020 09:32 AM
14-07-2020 09:32 AM
Re: How do I maintain?
Hi and welcome, @lyn255 ...I'm sorry to hear you find yourself stuck.
I'm wondering if you have a counsellor to talk through these things with? It can really help. And finding it hard to make decisions sounds a bit like depression... 😞
Please let us know how we can best support you...
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14-07-2020 09:45 AM - edited 14-07-2020 09:49 AM
14-07-2020 09:45 AM - edited 14-07-2020 09:49 AM
Re: How do I maintain?
Hello @lyn255 and welcome to the forums
you sound like you are really caught between a rock and a hard place.
do you have a good GP you can talk to... they will be able to help you and if need be refer you to more help
feel free to chat here whenever you feel the need.... let it all out.... share your worries.... we may not be professional counselors here... but we are good at listening... holding your hand... supporting you
let us know if we can help you
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14-07-2020 11:49 AM
14-07-2020 11:49 AM
Re: How do I maintain?
Thanks for your support.
Yes i speak to therapists they say help is available but there's no one standing next to you when it comes time to leave.
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14-07-2020 01:59 PM
14-07-2020 01:59 PM
Re: How do I maintain?
Sounds like a lonely place to be @lyn255. What helps you to feel less alone?
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14-07-2020 04:57 PM
14-07-2020 04:57 PM
Re: How do I maintain?
@lyn255 can completly understand where you are coming from.
I have ripped my family apart too in order for me to remove a certain family member from my life. It certainly has not been easy and I am still coming to terms with it, but for the sake of my mental health it needed to be done.
Keep reaching out here, there are lots of people here to support you.
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14-07-2020 06:17 PM
14-07-2020 06:17 PM
Re: How do I maintain?
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14-07-2020 08:03 PM
14-07-2020 08:03 PM
Re: How do I maintain?
Hey @lyn255, I really feel for you, it sounds like you're facing a constant uphill and you're feeling pretty exhausted from it all. Burn out is a very real thing and when we don't have the option to slow down because work is what keeps us afloat, finding time for self-care and recharging the batteries can be really hard. It's great you've got a therapist and some family support around you, I also recommend reaching out to a helpline too if you want to talk to someone about things, especially in between therapy sessions. The SANE Help Centre are great for this. I really hope things shift for you soon, and do reach out if you need.
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15-07-2020 05:47 AM