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15 Mar 2025 10:24 PM
15 Mar 2025 10:24 PM
Ok I understand @Dreamy
I hope you are able to get a good sleep.
Fortunately training is early because it’s supposed to be an even hotter day tomorrow here.
15 Mar 2025 10:26 PM
15 Mar 2025 10:26 PM
@Till23 guess we will see.
Tomorrow it's supposed to be cooler here, I really hope so cos I'm so over the heat. At least getting it out of the way early you will hopefully avoid the hottest part of the day. Try to stay as cool as you can 😊
15 Mar 2025 10:33 PM
15 Mar 2025 10:33 PM
Remember to take water with you @Till23 and stay hydrated xx
16 Mar 2025 09:03 AM
16 Mar 2025 09:03 AM
@Dreamy I only just saw your post here.It brought me enormous relief!
HUGS Glisten
16 Mar 2025 09:04 AM
16 Mar 2025 09:04 AM
Thanks @Glisten ❤️. Not quite the same yet but hopefully given time it will be.
16 Mar 2025 09:34 AM
16 Mar 2025 09:34 AM
@Dreamy I consider myself the Loser in my family and extended family.
Everyone else has done so well for themselves.
I got into a 13 year covert coercive control relationship and it ruined my life.
I didn’t even know that it was abuse until 6 months after he abandoned me on the opposite side of the country.
Starting from scratch, with nothing but a 10 year old car, 3 boxes and 2 suitcases at my age is not meant to happen. Everyone else is planning retirement and I’m trying to find lifestyle job opportunities, that will give me a decent income, give me a sense of purpose and be fore filling, is no easy task.
Being hounded by the feeling that it is all a massive effort and what if it takes me nowhere?
But I really don’t have any alternative.
It is, what it is.
16 Mar 2025 10:06 AM
16 Mar 2025 10:06 AM
@Glisten it's hard when you feel like that. I don't really have family to compare to but i certainly haven't done well for myself.
I've been through so many abusive relationships whether that be physical, verbal, emotional or coercive control. I've gone through it all and it's been hell. I'm so sorry for what you have been through, it's just not fair. Having to start from scratch is so hard, completely having to rebuild your life or rather make a new life for yourself.
But you are amazing and you have the strength to get through anything life throws your way. You have so many amazing skills and you will find somewhere that appreciates that and where you can flourish, it just takes time.
You know we are always here for you and will walk this journey with you ❤️
16 Mar 2025 10:13 AM
16 Mar 2025 10:13 AM
Hehe, yes @Shaz51 I do like seals!! There was a seal in the river near my place which is where my username comes from. RiverSeal
16 Mar 2025 12:17 PM
16 Mar 2025 12:17 PM
@RiverSeal , how lovely to see a seal all the time. 😍
16 Mar 2025 02:09 PM
16 Mar 2025 02:09 PM
Hey @Dreamy
If you like those motivational sayings and memes to bring a bit of hope, I would give you one that says something along the lines of sometimes things need to come crashing down before we can rebuild them.
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