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26-10-2016 09:05 PM
26-10-2016 09:05 PM
Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation
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26-10-2016 10:20 PM
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27-10-2016 07:10 AM
27-10-2016 07:10 AM
Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation
Thank you so much @pip.
I do understand what you're saying about my parents even though it still damn hurts.
I feel I still have so much pent up anger over this whole thing that really no therapist has ever asked me to let it all out, or challenged me to the point where I get so damn angry.
I guess I do care otherwise I wouldn't be here anymore. I don't know what else to say at the moment, woke up this morning and then started to cry, why?? i have no idea.
thank you for your support. xxxooo
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27-10-2016 07:26 AM
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27-10-2016 07:43 AM
27-10-2016 07:43 AM
Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation
tears are flowing
head so mixed up with so many different emotions
i just need to feel loved and cared
i just want all this pain to stop now. can't deal with all the tears, the emotions. it looks too scary
and i am too scared to ring my psychiatrist because he told me last week that i am phoning too often. what the hell are they there for?? aren't they meant to help when in crisis? I rang three times because i had to stop my meds (gp told me to stop beaue of side effects). so now if i call he will get angry with me because i have called again.
why do i pay so much and i can't even speak to him when i am so down. it feels like i have been kicked to the ground yet again.
i am sorry @pip
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27-10-2016 07:55 AM
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27-10-2016 08:43 AM
27-10-2016 08:43 AM
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Looks like we have way too much in common 😞
My main abuser (father) is dead now, sometimes my partner says I should go to his grave and just abuse him to get it out as I never really stood up to him when he was alive - I was terrified of him and so was everyone else. I can still see his evil looking eyes when I close my eyes and it gets my blood boiling. Apart from the the real crappy stuff which I wont go into on the forum (dont want to trigger anyone) you know at the age of 8 approx he actually pretended to have a heart attack so he could see how I would responsd??? Is that really fuck@@ up or what! But the other abusers my mother and sister they dont even get it that they have taken part in it and they dont care either.
I feel your pain exactly it hurts to know that they are your mother and family and dont even care to contact their own flesh and blood. For me thats the worst, I dont want anything to do with them and I know I'm better off but I still crave A REAL FAMILY that I didnt have. It doesnt help when society portrays normal life as the brady bunch and makes you feel even more screwed up when in reality you start finding out that this sort of family doesnt exist.
I dont know what I would do if I ran into my family now, I think I would take the cowards way out and run! Mainly because I dont want to be triggered, I dont want the arguments anymore plus I dont know why but around them I used to revert to a child like state and just let them boss me around etc. I often wonder how I would react if my mother died, part of me would be sad because no resolution and again I missed out on having the mother I never had and the other half would be like a massive weight has lifted.
Just remember you are not at fault - just because their your family doesnt make what they did ok infact it makes it worse in my eyes as they are supposed to protect and keep you safe. You cant change who they are and somehow we have to make peace with ourselves to accept that they will never understand or care.
You are not alone @BlueBay right now I'm thinking of you! 🙂
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27-10-2016 04:47 PM
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27-10-2016 06:41 PM
27-10-2016 06:41 PM
Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation
Hi @pip @Change123
Thank you so much for your support. I am stuck for words, i just don't know what to say except thank you
I feel so low at the moment, I need to be on my own for a while. Sitting in the lounge room on my own.
Sending you both hugs and love xxxooo
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27-10-2016 09:01 PM
27-10-2016 09:01 PM
Re: automatic shutdown or disassociation
I think this, dissociation, is what I call how much one has to hurt to stop feeling, but then it hurts not to feel, and to feel it's not real, I don't know how to stop it.