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03-08-2016 09:40 AM
03-08-2016 09:40 AM
Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
I have hurt my wife (mental stress to her) and she has left me.
This made me face upto my illness, but she insisr she has lost her live.
Everyone tells me I have to just accept that. Ok but its not.
Im 62, married 3 times, I love my wife.
I csnt stop this feeling and realky dont want to.
She is beautiful perdon, I made it to hard for her.
I want to communicate but get told not to.
Thatd tearing me apart.
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03-08-2016 10:32 AM
03-08-2016 10:32 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
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03-08-2016 12:48 PM
03-08-2016 12:48 PM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
Left me early May.
She is very hurt that she just doesnt want to hear about what I am doing to get well.
If I get well, not coming back. If I dont she cant live with me.
Catch 22.
I love her so much.
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03-08-2016 01:43 PM
03-08-2016 01:43 PM
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04-08-2016 02:49 AM
04-08-2016 02:49 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
So you are diagnosed with major depression. Who are you seeing for it? Do you have a opsychiatrist that you see - the one who diagnosed you. Do you see a psychologist for talking through your feelings, learning new coping techniques? Are you taking any medicine for the depression? What are you doing to try and change how you feel, how you are coping?
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04-08-2016 10:33 AM
04-08-2016 10:33 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
I live in remote WA, returned recently after stay in regionsl MHU. Immediately felt stress ss I got of the plane.
Seen psychiatrist, trying hard but regularly failing to put me first. I cant stop loving my wife. She keeps insisting we are over.
I get so frustrated with myself.
I just dont seem able to communicate. Major short coming for me internslise me a lot.
I feel she wants to talk but history of me frightns her.
Hurts me a lot when she uses phrases like my past decision making was domestic violence.
I was always just trying to take the worries on me. Was I so wrong.
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04-08-2016 10:54 AM
04-08-2016 10:54 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
No to psychiatrist who disgnosef me dt my remote location.
Yes on medication. Antidepresent and sleeping pills.
No to psychologist. Hard to get appt. At leadt 6 weeks. I feel this is my key, but cant get the time.
Not coping well at all. Very isolated and lonely.
Hope that answers
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04-08-2016 04:22 PM
04-08-2016 04:22 PM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
You mention your wife saying some of your past decisions were domestic abuse. Do you know why she says that? You may need to look into whaf she means by that. Look up Domestic violence definition - it doesn't have to be physical. Maybe that will help you see where your wife is coming from.
Hang in there. Keep talking to us or lifeline until you get further help
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06-08-2016 11:35 AM
06-08-2016 11:35 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
Why is it that I have times of uncontrollable sadness and tears?
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06-08-2016 11:59 AM
06-08-2016 11:59 AM
Re: Depressed how fo I communicate with my wife
Should read, "yet all I did seems to have Hurt her"
Additional.
I love my wife.
She has suggested I can move in to her place as I about to lose my place as it comes with my job that I can no longer do.
She says it will be, as friend only as she no longer feels love for me.
I want to be there but you can imagine my feelings.
I dont want to distress her with my feelings.
Advise on how to be a friend to someone you love whilst in the same house.