8 Dimensions of Wellness

[Owlunar]

I am so sorry @Historylover  - that no one has wished you Happy Birthday for 18 years - that is a life time of non-recognition - so disappointng

I've written myself a note and I am leaving it on my desk to remember you - it is so easy to wish someone Happy Birthday - we do this for family members - but I never hear from my siblings - I really don't want to - but I do have my own family and they never forget

Sending my best wishes though and I am glad you have let us know

Dec

[Historylover]

@P.S.  When is yours @Shaz51?  I'll mark it on my calendar.

[Historylover]

So good to hear from you @Owlunar  and thank you for your well wishes.  It hurts no matter how much I pretend it doesn't.  I've done my best for everyone and deserve much better than this.  I don't claim to have been always a perfect person but I can claim to have been the best person I can be in the circumstances life handed me.  And I certainly wouldn't do to anyone what has been done to me.

I really hurt today.  

When is your birthday so that I can make a note to send you a personal message on yours.  I can't promise cake and a card because I have never been able to figure out how to send pictures which are allowed!  So pleased your family holds you dearly.  You are so very lucky - and deserve nothing less. 

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Historylover 

You can only be the best person possible for you - I am sure there are people who think I am a grumpy old woman and that's okay for me - I am a complicated person and I speak my mind.

But I try to live the best life possible which means I care for other people

My birthday is on 6th July and my specialist told me that I have arthritis because I have had too many birthdays - well - that is a joke and I get it - and I am okay with it - but my last birthday seems to make me feel ancient for some reason

You do deserve better but there is not a lot we can do about other people - they are what they are -

Sending my best thoughts

Dec

[Shaz51]

i will remember my @Historylover 

mine is the 25th June my darling xx

[Shaz51]

ohh my @Historylover how old are you xxxx

Hello @StuF , @Appleblossom , @Elac , @Owlunar 

[Historylover]

There is so much talk about assertiveness - but just don't try to use it or you'll be labeled, and 'they' will never let you live it down.  Don't ever be anything but middle-of-the-road compliant.

I'm currently having a very bad time from having spoken my mind in that situation I recently referred to.  It just doesn't work.  I know now that (many) men have no respect for women and have a men's only gossip club - a band of 'brothers'.

I've marked your birthday on my calendar @Owlunar but send belated best wishes for last month's.  I hope you had a lovely day. 

[ShiningStar]

Hi @Shaz51 

It’s so lovely to hear from you 

Thank you so much for inviting me to participate in these conversations 

I really love the sound of the topic that focuses on emotional wellness and as such, I’ve made a note of the date in my diary, so that (if everything goes according to plan) I’ll be able to join you 

Take care,

ShiningStar 

[Historylover]

Many thanks @Shaz51.  Sorry I missed yours.  I send belated birthday greetings and best wishes for many more.  Sending best wishes to you. 

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Historylover 

This year I did have a good birthday - my daughter came here for a short while - no lock-down that day - and we had fish-n-chips for lunch

She is still recovering from orthopaedic surgery last year - she can drive short distances now - she still has to be careful and she is uncomfortable sitting, standing, lying down

But we did get together

Last year I had a sucky birthday - I couldn't see my daughter as she had a heavy cold and was isolating after a COVID test and I had shoulder pain so severe I was admitted to hospital - such an event!! - the pits -  I went through a private ED and they gave me pain relief instantly and kept it up - which not everyone gets

I wish you ( in advance) for a good birthday this year - it will be spring by then - and hopefully the lockdowns can be less

Actually - I am an assertive person - and of course - people might be entitled to think I am grumpy. I had 10 days in hospital later last year - too long - I had plenty of things to speak to the charge nurses about - sometimes it is necessary - but never easy

I am like that though - I did learn how to be assertive - I think it makes things easier for other people - at least - I hope so

Dec