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03-06-2017 09:04 PM
03-06-2017 09:04 PM
Therapist jealousy
Hi friends,
So i hear this from one of my other friends who attends therapy and has her own mental health journey, but recently as she has been sharing her stratergies i have really been feeling jealous of her relationship and the fact that her therapist has all these cool names for her stratergies...
Sounds so silly. i'm looking at it and getting lots out of it for my self. I am happy for her growth and healing but sometimes it feels like there is seriously somethign wrong with me. I also watch as she is moving through healing much faster than i am.
i know in my head that comparisons are dangerous and that i have DID that will take many years of secure therapy to help heal but just makes me angry. there i said it the angry emotion
has anyone experienced this therpist jealously before?
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04-06-2017 08:08 PM
04-06-2017 08:08 PM
Re: Therapist jealousy
I don't have exactly the same experience, but when I'm struggling emotionally I do feel jealous hearing about people who feel supported by the help they receive, or even just hearing about people who actually have supports set up (doctor, therapist etc). I typically haven't had good, helpful experiences with therapy or even short term professional help. So it can really get to me to hear about other people feeling "so supported" and whatnot when I feel like I have no one.
So it makes complete sense to me that you could feel angry when comparing your situation to your friend's. It's not silly at all.
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05-06-2017 06:26 AM
05-06-2017 06:26 AM
Re: Therapist jealousy
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05-06-2017 10:25 AM
05-06-2017 10:25 AM
Re: Therapist jealousy
Hello @mudsum
I think that is really helpful that you are noticing your emotional reaction to learning that about someone's connection with their therapist, I think it would be really interesting for you to talk that through with your psychologist to learn more about where that jealousy is coming from as I don't think that jealousy would necessarily be just playing out in your therapeutic relationship but perhaps also in other aspects of your life, do you think? Or is it just something you have felt with your therapist?
Lunar 🙂