Something’s not right
Thank you for the reassurance @Peri
It can be hard to get the right balance.
Reading your post about your grandchild helped me keep open hearted and hopeful about my own grandson. I have a little experience with disabled children and they can be the most joyful human beings. Today I received an email written by his mother via my son. It would be lovely to have him come here and eventually spend the night.
Connecting with the broader community ebbs and flows for me. SOmetimes i feel like a total failure and isolated and alone and other times, I feel warmer about it all. Eg when a few people in my musical life post or support my post about an important issue. There is one fellow, who made a wise post helping to calm the social media feeds that were getting upset about the protests and riots, that I get. I may not have seen him for 2 years, or worked with him for 3 years, but it is good to know that he is still doing his thing. He is in 70s. We all slow down.
I am only 60, so can probably still learn a thing or 2 re grandkids.
I was glad to see your tags.
Saw your tag. Sorry the weekend went sour for all 3 of you.
Hearing you about being a grandmother and dealing with a mother with too much power. We can only fix so much. That mother sounds horrid and immature, but sadly seen enough of that behaviour .... Your son does not have to be perfect to be a good enough and decent father. That is all that is needed.
I missed having a father and believe there is a need for mens rights to be discussed.
My grandson is underweight and only just starting to get 15 % solid food and he turned one this month. They are big on home birth, vegan, home school and no outside intervention. Those things could be good, but its too extreme, everything the way of the mother. Both parents are very tall. It is such a waste of goodwill, time and love ...
The younger generation has real needs.
Wish I could say it will be alright. In time maybe your granddaughter will learn that her dad is worth better behaviour than that.
Dear @Peri
My apologies it took so long to get back to you. I have been a little quiet on the forums the past couple of days.
Yes you are going through a very sad and distressing time with your son and the custody and access issues around your little granddaughter. Anything to do with the family law courts and associated other organisations, is very very distressing. And often very unfair rulings. I guess they feel they are doing the best, but in reality .. they simply dont know. They are guessing, taking a stab in the dark essentially. And anyone with enough money to throw at the process will always get the better outcome. Unfortunately fathers will always be unfairly descriminated against in such battles, perhaps even more so given that the child in question is a daughter. Again ... totally unfair.
No wonder you feel appalled and distressed by the threats and demands being issues by the other party, and the possibility of your son losing parental rights. Which of course means that you too will lose access to your granddaughter. I dont know how to fix the system, or if it can ever be fixed at all. Family disputes are the worst .. so much at stake, so much to lose, so much emotion involved.
I hope your son is holding up as well as he can. And you too, under such difficult circumstances. Little Imogen must be feeling distraught too with all that is going on. There is now way that she isnt being affected by whats going on. Its very difficult to be needing to support all those around you, when you too are highly distressed. But I have no doubt you are doing a fabulous job of it.
My thoughts are very much with you during this difficult and upsetting time. I hope something fair and equitable can be resolved.
Sherry 🌺🤗💕
