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[amber22]

Hey everyone!

On Thursday 7th of September 2023, we will be holding a Peer Group Chat on the topic of Building Trust.

Trust is a vital pre-requisite to being vulnerable and sharing with others. Let’s come together to talk about our experiences with trust, and how we might be able to develop trust to enable safe and open sharing.

The event start times across Australia are below:

Western Australia: 5pm 
Northern Territory & South Australia: 6:30pm 

Queensland, New South Wales, Australian Capital Territory, Victoria & Tasmania: 7pm

For anyone unfamiliar with Peer Group Chats, each focuses on a specific topic and is guided by Peer Workers with lived experience of mental health issues and recovery, &/or caring for someone with complex mental health. A counsellor is also present as a moderator to help ensure a safe environment for individuals and the group. It is a space for us as peers to share our stories and experiences, and connect with those who are going through something similar. 

Anyone is welcome to join! Tagging some members who may be interested below: 

@Shaz51 @Snowie @Meggle @chibam @Appleblossom @sammy3 @Jacques @creative_writer @Captain24 @Bobbie @Messylife @Mk333 @Gillie @wellwellwellnez @Laura4 @Dimity @Kyle1 @Emergence @tonys @Mk333 @StuF @CloudBerry @ShiningStar @Smiling_Gecko @Bow 

Peer Group Chats are hosted outside of the forums, using a platform called Chatwee. 

To join an Online Peer Group and participate, you will need to register for an account with Chatwee.
To access the group to observe only and not participate, you can access Chatwee as a Guest.
On the night, follow this link to access Chatwee before the group starts.
You can join our Peer Group Chats every Thursday from 7:00-8:30pm (AEDT). Check out the FAQs page for more information.  

We hope to see you there 😊 If you can't make it but are interested, you can always catch up reading the transcript afterwards here. We also invite you to continue the conversation below on this thread if you can't make the night but also wish to contribute some of your responses. We will post some dot point prompts on the day that can get the conversation started if you're unable to make the live event!

[Glisten]

@amber22 Yes please 

[Glisten]

@amber22  I’m looking forward to the Peer Group Chat Building Trust this evening.

[TideisTurning]

Hi Everyone,

Just a reminder that the next Online Peer Group Chat on Building Trust will take place tonight from 7-8:30pm AEST.  As always, for ease of reference, times across Australia are in the graphic and listed below: 

•  

Western Australia: 5pm 
Northern Territory & South Australia: 6:30pm 

Queensland, New South Wales, Australian Capital Territory, Victoria & Tasmania: 7pm 

Tonight, you can expect discussion about: 

• What trust looks like for us and why it is important 
• How to build trust with others  
• How our environment might impact trust 

Tagging members who have supported or otherwise interacted with the thread so far as well as those who may be interested to receive a reminder: @Glisten @Snowie @Patches59 @Appleblossom @Oaktree @Shaz51 @Jacques @7cough9 @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Captain24 @Bow @_PixieSolstice_ 

[tyme]

Our Peer Group Chat STARTS SOON!

Come and join us:

@Glisten @Snowie @Patches59 @Appleblossom @Meggle @Shaz51 @Jacques @7cough9 @sammy3 @Faith-and-Hope @Captain24 @Bow @_PixieSolstice_ 

Tagging members who might be online now:

@CrazyChick @Kyle1 @Meowmy @LuluandZen @L3G10N 

Peer Group Chats are hosted outside of the forums, using a platform called Chatwee. 

To join an Online Peer Group and participate, you will need to register for an account with Chatwee.
To access the group to observe only and not participate, you can access Chatwee as a Guest.
On the night, follow this link to access Chatwee before the group starts.
You can join our Peer Group Chats every Thursday from 7:00-8:30pm (AEDT). Check out the FAQs page for more information.  

[TideisTurning]

Hi Everyone

Something that came up in our discussion is trusting yourself, alongside trusting others. What I would be curious to hear from anyone who would like to share is; how do you think trusting yourself differs from trusting others? Also, how is it similar?

A few extra resources you might like to review in considering this are Brené Brown’s BRAVING acronym and Marble Jar metaphor for trust.

@Glisten @Faith-and-Hope @Patches59 @Appleblossom @Snowie @Dark_Olena @Shaz51 @amber22 @Jacques @_PixieSolstice_ 

[Glisten]

@TideisTurning  Trusting myself, differs from trusting others because, I trust that I will take appropriate action to help myself recover, if someone betrays my trust.

[_PixieSolstice_]

Hmm, been thinking about this for the last couple of hours.

I have a couple of levels of trust.

1. I’ve just met them. Do they seem like a decent enough person? I know first impressions can be bad, but do they look like a decent person? The type of person I’d feel comfortable to water my plants whilst I’m away? (So yeah, the “I trust you, a little bit” level)

2. I’ve known you for a little while now. Are they the type of person that I’d trust to grab something from Woolies. 
3. hey, we’re pretty close. I’d feel comfortable telling you bits and pieces about life.

4. We’re super close, if I had a child/pet I’d trust you looking after it for weeks. We’ve probably shared some vulnerable moments of life.

now, how do I trust myself? 
ok let’s be honest, I ask myself that question sometimes.

Now, that’s a tricky one! I struggle with decision making normally, when it’s a decision of “do I trust myself doing this?” it’s usually one of two things - I overthink it, or I just judge instantly by the vibe.

So there’s that “I just met you and I think I can trust you” thing coming into effect right there 😅

[TideisTurning]

That makes total sense @Glisten! You are in control of you, so it's highly likely that you are someone you can rely on to do what you need.

I really like your distinction between different levels of trust, @_PixieSolstice_ . I feel like what you said also illustrates a little how trust is something that may need to be built, even with ourselves!

[Former-Member]

Caught my eye and couldn’t ignore but reflect a bit.

trust is very important for me, it can relate to honesty and authenticity . Also when there is ambiguity with someone while a first bad impression is often a dealbreaker I find my shiny new “mental health skills” or values, assertiveness and boundaries to be good. I think trusting myself also plays a role among these.