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~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Jynx
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~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Hey forums fam. Today, as many of you probably know, is R U Okay Day. I’ve been here long enough to know that this day can actually be kinda triggering for those living with complex mental health. Because a lot of the time, we aren’t really okay, and being asked that question can feel like a bit of a slap in the face.

 

I just want to take a moment to acknowledge that, acknowledge that having only one day a year where people might think to check up on us, or to have someone we’re not close to ask us that question when they probably don’t want to know the real answer, can feel really lousy.

 

So I won’t ask you.

 

But I do know that all of us here are surviving. The amount of courage, resilience, tenacity, and fortitude that I witness in all of you is truly inspiring to me. And the ways I see this community band together to look after one another is so incredible and so meaningful – enough so that I reckon this community is the number one reason I’ve stuck around for the last four years. You’re all absolutely amazing!

 

So feel free to use this post as an opportunity to talk about your own experiences of R U Okay Day, and I would also love if we can all share some of our little wins, so we can remind ourselves that even if we’re not okay, we still have things we can celebrate together.

 

For me, my recent little win is that I paid my car rego on time. My ADHD brain is an expert in forgetting things and so actually remembering to do something important feels like a victory for me. Yay! I’m an adult!!

 

What about you forums fam, any little wins of late?

 

@Shaz51 @Dimity @Bunniekins @Jacques @TAB @wordman @Former-Member @Zoe7 @NatureLover @Oaktree @Meggles @Eve7 @pinklollipop15 @MDT @Glisten @Boppa @whatsaname @Snowie @creative_writer @Bow @Captain24 @Owlunar @Fluttershy1 @justanotherguy 

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Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Great idea @Jynx 


my little win recently is doing as much as early as possible so I have control about my upcoming house move.  Previous moves I’ve had help from small group of people and still in early hours of moving day am in panic as haven’t got everything done.  This time I’m doing almost all arrangements, packing etc myself, it’s working and am feeling less stressed.     Woo hoo!

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Great post @Jynx !

 

For me, R U OK? day is not so much triggering, but annoying. People would just walk up to me and ask 'R U OK?' - no that they really cared, nor was it asked in a genuine way.

 

By all means, if it take bright yellow and a 'DAY' to ask, so be it, however, I challenge everyone to make it more than just a one day affair.

 

If you see someone, genuinely ask, "Are you okay?" Then, part 2 is actually being an active listener!

 

How many have experienced someone asking you if you are okay and when you try to answer, they are not even listening!

 

So yes, we are all surviving. Some are thriving, but it's absolutely okay to just be surviving today.

 

Hugs to you all!

 

@Shaz51 @Birdofparadise8 @Captain24 @Bow @outlander @Eve7 @Zoe7 @ClockFace @Faith-and-Hope @MDT @Anastasia @TAB @StuF @StanD @Oaktree 

 

Please tag anyone else you feel would like to contribute.

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

I love your profile pic @Patches59 !

 

Woohoo to you!

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Awesome post 👍👍👍

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Thanks @tyme @Former-Member 😊

 

Woohoo nice one @Patches59! I'm always a last-minuter so I really understand how much of a victory it can feel like when you get things done early! 😁

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

I’m not a fan of R U Ok day. @Jynx @tyme. At work everyone runs around say R U Ok but then move straight to the next person. I find most ask just because it’s a day. 

A little win for me is that I managed to clean my entire house and get all the ironing done yesterday. Also I have spent some self care time laying in the sun. 

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

My win for today was getting a room tidied and sorted out. It makes things feel so much better when it is ordered and clean 🙂 @Jynx @Captain24 @Former-Member @Patches59  

 

I also started some training modules so I feel I have accomplished things today even though I haven't finished the training yet 🙂

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

@tyme. @Jynx , @Captain24 , @Former-Member , @Patches59 

I ammm sooo tired 

Amm I OK,  ammmmm not sure 🤔 but I ammmm still here just 

Re: ~ R U OKAY? Maybe not, but I’m surviving ~

Ohh @hanami , soo tired here 

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