Coming to terms with reality

[Former-Member]

@eudemonism

yes agree re other people....just because there in a certain role, occupation does not necessarily mean that they are a nice person

if you are feeling used then go with your intuition....I have read this comment in your posts before....if these people whom you think might be using you can't communicate properly with you then it does sound as though they are the selfish ones

filter through and perhaps hang on to the one whom you feel most comfortable with for the time being

expanding your options is a great idea a good way of meeting different people

this is a worldwide dilemma that you talk about.....you will be a good friend for someone out there who can treat you with respect

yes perhaps this thread has served it's time for you.....

starting one in enjoying time with others ...a good idea....also join in others that appeal too

all the best in your quest.....I think that you will find some happiness if you can keep on believing in yourself and being kind to yourself...I have learnt this very difficult lesson myself

take care

[Adek]

Too tired to think or digest. Agree with SLEEEEP... 😴💤💤💤. Lets all sleep on it.

[eudemonism]

Ah @Former-Member & @Adek 😧

[Adek]

What's up @eudemonism? Managed 4 hours sleep last night. Eyes still heavy but mind's racing..to vacuum..or to not. To do laundry or to not,To go class or to not, To visit bro again today at hosp or to not...i ended up doing nothing today after a long day yesterday. Need some lazying around since weekend will be packed.

[Former-Member]

how are you @eudemonism?

[Former-Member]

Sleep is so vital for health...even more so for mental health

housework will wait for you

how is your brother? Operation? 

I do remember you talking about a busy upcoming weekend

be nice to yourself

you too @eudemonism

[eudemonism]

Hi @Former-Member everything has come to a halt this afternoon. It's been a good morning and will turn out to be a good day. But for about 4 hours this afternoon i was looking at everything through the all seeing eye of my mind. And well, all i can say is... it's 4 hours of my life I'm never getting back. I'd like to think i could apply a one size fits all analogy too my life which would mean everything works out just fine. But it's probably not possible.

Been going to church and aa meetings. And making changes which point me in the direction i want to go. And it's slowly but surely working. It's like the devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other type of thing.

[eudemonism]

Read as well @Adek

[eudemonism]

I got activities i can be getting on with. And stuff i can be doing. But i sometimes start to question what's happening. Then hesitate. The procrastinate. Then deliberate. Then doubt. Then fear. Then analyse. Then over think. Then start being negative. And i wind up in a bind of expectations from myself.

Life is miserable for everyone i suppose. And it is probably a struggle for everyone. And i suspect that everyone is suffering also. So, my point being. If I'm always concerned, worried and concentrated on other people's misery, suffering and struggling. And taking actions to eliminate this from them. I'm not going to have time to worry about my own misery, suffering and struggles. (Whatever they maybe caused bye ). And in turn it basically kills two birds with one stone. And is the lesser of two evils. But beware because there needs to be a balance and there are those who will use it against you. And it is very draining and actually not very easy to maintain. But i do think that the universe, others, God or reality know what's going on. And it does come back on you through karma. So keep the game clean. The intentions pure. Mean well. Want what's best for others. Do good deeds. Go out of your way to check on people. Talk and speak with people. Find out what's going on.

There isthat thing where two people question whos really helping who though. That's a tricky one.

Or sit here and worry about myself? And my problems, issues and short comings. Which do indeed fester upon me. Like it would everyone.

Thought for food @Former-Member ? @Adek ?

[Former-Member]

great effort ....very hard to do

life is not easy

as long as we can reap some positives along the way....enjoy the moments and pat ourselves on the back...we can keep on

sounds like you have done just that today