Lived Experience Forum

[R1CK13]

My baby has had nothing but problems from the start. She is a good kid, only 3 weeks old, but has had medical problems since birth and i cant help but blame myself for her suffering. No matter how much people keep telling me its not my fault and there is nothing i could have done to prevent it, i still feel like it is my fault. I feel like a failure as a parent because i cant give her even the basic "perfect" start to life...

[Alone]

Hi R1ck,

3 weeks! thats still a brand new baby, congratulations 🙂   The best start any parent can give their child is a loving, caring parent and it sounds like you are doing that perfectly.  I can only imagine how tough and emotional it must be to have a little one that isn't well, my heart goes out to you.

[esprit]

Sounds like your already a good parent. Mine are teenaged and I still feel like that and worry and second guess everything. All you can do is your best in what you know how at the time and learn as you go. Congratulations on your baby. It's the most beautiful time but exhausting and scary. Best wishes to you and your family xx

[Appleblossom]

I was like that with my first childbirth, blamed myself for it not being a totally natural birth.  Gradually, as the day to day rolls on ... we realise that the great privilege of parenting is also a testament to us being human.  Dont be too hard on yourself, with a sick bub, you need every bit of positive energy and kindness for you both.