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03-09-2014 01:34 PM
03-09-2014 01:34 PM
I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
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03-09-2014 09:44 PM
03-09-2014 09:44 PM
Re: I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
Hi Cherrycola,
Welcome to saneforums! I'm 'Cherry'bomb.
The picture you paint makes me feel like a can of soda (perhaps cherry cola) that has been shaken up and is full of pressure. It sounds like there's a lot of built up tension, and anxious feelings, and the lid is just waiting to be released.
Now I'm certainly in no position to diagnose so it might be helpful to speak to a mental health practitioner. Often when people feel this way getting a diagnose can help them understand what's going on, which can make things less confusing and give some direction about what to do next.
To link in with a psychologist, you can get a referral from your GP. BeyondBlue has a list of GPs that have a particular interest in mental health if you're unsure of how to find an appropriate one. When you go to your GP, it may help to book a longer appointment to ensure that you don't feel rushed and can have more time to get your concerns addressed. It can also be helpful to write down your symptoms, feelings, and family history, and any other areas you want to discussed beforehand. The GP will do an initial assessment and then can refer you on to a mental health clinician such as psychologist or a psychiatrist. They can either refer you to one that they know or they can refer you to one that you choose. You can find a psychologist here and or a psychiartrist here. However, be sure to clarify what the medicare rebate is before you ask for a referral to a MH practitioner of your choice as some may charge more than others.
It sounds like there's a lot going on for you emotionally and physically so getting a diagnosis or even an explanation might be helpful.
Does anyone else have any thoughts?
CherryBomb
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04-09-2014 05:56 PM - edited 04-09-2014 05:57 PM
04-09-2014 05:56 PM - edited 04-09-2014 05:57 PM
Re: I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
Hi Cherrycola,
Wow - you're very self aware! Not alot of people are good at articulating what they are feeling & why. You're already 1/2 way there!
Cherrybomb (any relation to you ) had some really good points on how to seek help. You mentioned you have been depressed before. Did you seek help for that? Do you have a professional you already have a bond with?
Our bodies do have a physical response when we're stressed - as you mentioned, it's that fight or flight mode. So as you're aware, your heart rate is up, adrenalin is flowing and your mind is busy. Now the cool thing is, is that we can reduce those physical symptoms, which in turn helps you calm down. It sounds really simple, but takes practice. It's breathing! I know people say "just breathe" and it's lost some of it's meaning. It actually works.
Slowing down your breathing reduces your heart rate. If your heart rate slows down, your brain turns off it's 'flight or flight' mode and things go back to 'normal' I made that sound very simple... but it has to be practiced. basically you breath in for 4 seconds (counting in your head as you inhale 1, 2 ,3 ,4) & then out for 4 seconds.
I'm sure a professional can give you other strategies too 🙂
Also - I really like this Ted talk about stress - helped me think differently about it
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04-09-2014 08:45 PM
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Re: I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
Or, it might be you need a bit of a lie in, maybe your husband can take both boys out early one morning to give you a lie in. The main point is to do something just for you, so not housework or grocery shopping, just 15 mins for you to not have to listen to kids squabbling and getting into horseplay..
Be kind to you, the Pantene ad is right, you're worth it!
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04-09-2014 09:22 PM
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Re: I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
Welcome to the forum, cherrycola!
Anger, fear, anxiety, agitation, euphoria, rage... They're all states of arousal. Kind of the opposite of depression... And the other side of the coin?
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05-09-2014 02:36 PM
05-09-2014 02:36 PM
Re: I'm not depressed but can't cope with stress at all, so what am I?
You're right on that, chem, thanks.
Hi cherrycola, I think I've had the same thing (and still have it when its a bad day and all the bats in my cave are quarreling).
Don't worry about what label to put on your experience. I've found that other people have labels to offer you and you will get a lot to choose from. Just remember to choose a label that you feel comfortable with.
Like stick-it notes. They peel off easy.
Stress is like sunlight, some of us burn, some tan. And the sun shines on us all.
Coping with stress is something that we can learn to do, and there are a lot of people that can give us help.
Myself, I spent a long time being miserable before I decided that it wasn't other people, my work, my partner, little green men, an ancient curse, or tight shoes that was the problem.
I don't have to suffer. I'm a good decent person with a problem that can be dealt with. And the same goes for you.
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