Lived Experience Forum

[B45]

Woke up this morning thinking, "here we go again, another day of feeling uncomfortable where I live".  I live in a beautiful area it's just there are people around who are not so friendly.  I feel a bit vulnerable as I am quiet, reserved and would like to be friendly with everyone.  I've been that way for the last 40 years.  I'm trying to become a stronger personality and be able to handle these "not so friendly types".  I know it takes time to change & there are plenty of positives in my life.  How do I stop these feelings interrupting my transformation.  I so want to show hubby I can change.  I am on meds &  seeing a counsellor.

[HellonWheels]

Have you tried mindfulness?

[B45]

Thanks @HellonWheels for your reply.  I do guided meditations daily & work on breathing.  I think I expect too much too soon.  Learning to cope with anxiety takes time particularly when you have behaved the same way for 40 years of your life and you weren't given a great deal of emotional support as a child.  That was then this is now.  I have an anxiety toolbox, I have to face my fears & give myself time.

[Gavinlee]

Do you see a psychiatrist? Do you attend any groups? Do you have private health insurance?

All of these can help, talking and learning skills in a group environment is very helpful and you can certainly learn from others experience's

[B45]

I have a good cousellor who I see fortnightly. I live in a country area - no groups but down the track I would like to start one.

[Gavinlee]

I've done the psychologist thing but found group and learning skills to be far more helpful.
It's worth looking into, especially if you have private health insurance.