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[utopia]

@bitter2016. Thank you for clarifying that. And no, you never need to say anything on this forum unless you choose.
I used to prefer the friendship of men rather than women when I was younger. I found their conversation more interesting than 'girl talk'. Although some of the wives and girlfriends didn't like it much (tough - their issues not mine) - I did make it clear to my male friends right from the start - that I wasn't interested in anything other than being a mate. And that's how they treated me. As one of the boys.
I wonder how you would find it if you befriended a married woman - or even a couple. Yes you may have a friendship with the wife - but the husband would also be a (less close) friend.
I it might be a great topic to bring up with your health care worker/s. And see if they have techniques you can use to try to prevent this from happening.
But you need to be honest with future friends as to what you do and don't want to happen. And you need to remind yourself that you don't want to go there. Maybe a note you keep in your wallet or on your fridge - that you can read at any time - that reminds you that friendship is more important - than taking things further

[sotty]

hi blitter,

i have not been married but do suffer from bipolor. I have a parnter who i know gets sick of the bipolor effects that is no enery, can't seem to have a simple meal. i wrote a post called in this life agter hospoital and i was referred to you in making a connection with someone with bipolor.  someone to understand what i am going through.