hey @mike_m first of all - welcome and thank you for sharing.

navigating relationships can definitely be challenging, and i can see how confusing and overwhelming it has been for you. 

sometimes when we're trying to work on our mental health while also managing a relationship, things can get confusing and tricky. it looks like you care a lot about this person, and it's really great that she's got some support at the moment. sometimes even treatment/recovery can have a lot of ups and downs, and then some more downs and ups - it's not always linear. i hope you're looking after yourself during this time too, your health matters too. 

you mentioned that you believe she has bipolar II and that 'she's safe without the meds'. it's hard to say whether a person with bipolar II diagnosis is/isn't safe without meds, it up to the professionals to make that judgement. considering she is linked in with services already, maybe the next step is calling the psychiatric triage team in your area if you are really concerned about her safety?