Hi @SkiptheDog 

First off… Good on you for all the work you’ve done so far - becoming sober, all the therapy you’ve done and all the thing you have changed to be where you are now vs where you were before … Those early steps are hard as you often don’t feel the change and they can trigger a whole raft of other issues as you walk the path to a new life. Change is hard. But oh so worth it.

Being self aware is a huge help to working on things you want to change for you. Small steps lead to great journeys. The self awareness you have with the knowledge you have from the therapy you’ve done will lead to change - more knowledge - more self-awareness. It’s a beautiful upcycle.

I can’t see the other posts so running from memory @8ppleTree is right on all they said. Self-care is an imperative for me cause if I’m not okay then I’m no good for anyone. There is a DBT thing about taking a ‘vacation’ from life. It can just be a few minutes to a few hours, sometimes I take a literal vacation and then take my mini vacations within those as well. It’s just about taking time out. Time out from emotions, people, decisions, working on myself etc etc I suppose even the work ya do on yaself is also about self-care. Picking out things that aren’t working for you and seeing what you can do to change it. 

Identifying what is triggering your feelings is a great start. You can look at the situation logically and address them internally. I so often find that the process of identify what is triggering the feelings then results in a change because you are already thinking and analysing yourself and the situation.