@EternalFlower

One thing I learned about therapy was that in the end, it is about my showing up for myself, regularly and with genuine desire to do and be the best person I could/can. (I still am “in therapy “.) That is what I get from you. So that is a giant plus regardless of anything that happens in the therapeutic relationship. TR … therapeutic relationship is a thing… some of the stuff in it is our/ the client’s to process. Well we are left to process it whether we like it or not… but I have learned that it is not all about us. The therapist’s stuff also gets mixed up in our TR. Some are better than others at dealing with it or being transparent about it. 

Figuring out what we honestly have to work through is our own personal growth and teaches us about patterns in our attachment styles and themes we need to face.

 I was terribly obsessed with a psychiatrist I saw in the late 1980s. I thought he was amazing and was totally impressed by his positions and persona. He had been head of a mental institution, had a Royal Commission into him and lectured in psychiatry at a university. It took years and decades for me to get over him. I am glad to say I haven’t even thought of him for years now. I placed all my locus of control in his hands and so wished he would save me. He really did very little good for me , but we are encouraged to open ourselves and be vulnerable… so the impact of the relationship is uneven possibly one sided. I am still open and trusting and hardworking but I am no longer giving therapists so much power. 

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good to have your thoughtful posts.

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