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29 Jan 2025 04:04 AM
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Hi @Zol

 

Yes, we do have similarities, like living inter-state away from family.

 

I find your powerful thought "I am already the person I aim to be" very interesting and useful. I will need to dwell on this more.

 

I spent decades wanting to be like others, and not understanding why I wasn't, and therefore disliking myself. My ASD diagnosis helped me forgive myself to an extent, but so much of the ASD journey so far is about dredging up past trauma and identifying our deficiencies.

 

Your thought, by contrast, encourages a focus on our qualities. Perhaps even that we don't need to change, but believe we are already good enough the way we are.

 

The goal (and challenge) is finding a place where our qualities are valued. I saw your follow-up post about your self-identity "needle" having been pushed in the negative direction, and now being pushed in a positive direction. I can definitely relate to the "needle" metaphor.

 

Many thanks for these insightful ideas.

xp

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