hi @Dimity it was my support coordinators son sadly - 

so i think its a bit compromising because her role is to find the right person for teh job

her son might be the right person for the job - but he really wasn't - i am a bit too extreme in that for me it's enough to write the coordinator off entirely but my friend says not quite yet - so ... deep breaths

i understand your need to take a breath before finding support workers - i know sometimes it can feel like pressure to get the right person but i wish i'd waited more myself