Wow, @asdfge there's a lot ot digest there.

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@asdfge wrote:

I was wondering, if you have had to experience people treating you inappropriately because they wrongly assume that you've suffered brain damage, what coping skills you use to deal with this?

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While not specifically relating to assumptions of brain dammage, I used to try to handle people treating me poorly by treating them how I wanted to be treated myself (you know, the 'golden rule'?). But it never worked for me.

So next I tried treating them the way that I figured they wanted to be treated, but that's never worked either. I think it's because I don't really understand what they want, I'm not playing the part they want properly. Then to top it all off you have to wrestle with the anguish of forever play-acting a character that you really don't respect, which really eats away at your resolve to keep playing the part, you know? Which in turn probably degrades the quality of the performance.

TL;DR answer: I don't really know how to handle this situation effectively, sorry .

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@asdfge wrote:

Also, do you find yourself needing more reassurance than usual whenever this happens to you? 

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Not so much reassurance as connection, you know? For me, it's moments like that when I especially wish that I had someone there by my side who I can really relate to, you know? Like, that I had at least one example of humanity to contrast with the innumerable foreigners and make me feel that there's someone on this earth for me.