I just quickly wanted to respond to an email question we received eariler:

"I am engaged to my partner who has a diagnosis of Borderline personality Disorder .. I need help to cope .. Currently she has "ran away " again.. This happens regularly .. The cycle repeats itself . I know her behaviour is manipulative .. But I am feeling so defeated I feel like I allow it to continue .. I love her very much .. What can I do to protect my own sanity ."

It sounds like you've been doing it tough with your partner. I think the fact that you have remained together throughout these devastating cycles speaks to both of your strengths. I think the most important thing is how to make the relationship sustainable into the future (because clearly you both matter to each other!). That might be by figuring out some boundaries together (i.e. what behaviours you can and can't tolerate and what to do when these lines are crossed). Also, I think it is important to find ways to take care of yourself (i.e. doing the things that you enjoy and that give you pleasure).