@Captain24 when a child grows up without their parents ever having taught them how to ride a bike, do you say 'That child has failed at simple life skills'? Course not! You can easily see that the child was not taught this skill and cannot be blamed for falling off their bike when everyone around em keeps pushing em to ride, despite them not knowing how. 

Boundaries are a life skill too - and a much, much harder one than riding a bike. And more to the point, boundaries are NOT a commonly taught life skill, I mean... I doubt it's a topic in most parenting books! So, just as an adult who was never taught to cycle cannot be called a failure if they fall off their bike, nor can you be called a failure for not being able to suddenly manifest a difficult skill out of nowhere!

What are you up to right now darlin? I'm hearing that the dark cloud is quite thick round ya, so happy to sit with you a while 😉