Hi @Powderfinger 

Thank you for your honesty and openness. It is very hard for me not to be biased in your favour as I told you my brother was in a relationship with a narcissist. I also treated her and thought of her as a family member and friend. He was with her for 7 years and he was in love with her. We eventually saw through her gaslighting, lying and manipulation. She didn't love my brother and she also had no feelings for me. She got me involved with a type of pyramid selling by trusting her and by her bullying me which I had to go through legal channels to get out of. I know your situation is different. But I completely understand your description of events. Narcissists have this way of manipulating the situation that it feels like it's all your fault, that you are making a mountain out of a molehill but it is not your fault and it is a big deal. I don't want to lay blame. They can't help what they are but it is not other people's fault it stems from them and thank goodness you have the strength to see that. If you have a psychologist you can talk to it might be benificial to get their opinion. There are psychologists who specialise in this sort of area and there are books which deal with this topic. Perhaps you have already done this. I don't know what I can say except I'm so sorry you are going through hell at the moment. I just hope it gets better with time. This is my honest opinion and my indirect experience.

lost9

lost9