Hi @Powderfinger,

My brother recently went through what you are going through. What worked for him was getting onto an online dating site and finding someone who was the opposite of his ex. I think he was incredibly lucky so I don't know if it would work for you or not. You may need some time to heal. A lot of time. My brother nearly went around the twist obsessing about his ex. He had to plunge into a new relationship and even now his ex relationship can spill over into his current relationship. He told his new girlfriend about his ex and she is very supportive. Although it sounds as if you also need to put in some time to work. I think the trick is striking a balance between the relationship with your partner, work, your friends, loved ones including your family, children, pets, exercise and time for yourself. In today's fast paced world this is very hard to achieve so be kind to yourself. You can only do what you can do. My very best wishes for a happy life eventually.

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