So that is where we do need to practise more subtle awareness of responsibilities ... ie primary, secondary tertiary triggers etc .. and the maturity of age ... 

Sometimes sharing pain .. actually completely releases someone else from loneliness. Sometimes it reminds them.

these are only ever secondary triggers ... Grown ups do have the responsibility not to project that out ... but it is an area of spectrums and you are a younger member on the forum ... take care of you .. by not taking everyone's issues on board.

I have to go .. and do my work now ... but you are very encouraging and imaginative and loyal .. dont forget that. Bella