Hi @Meowmy, I hope you feel better soon, I've just seen a lovely Tedtalk about gender performativity, in it the speaker says we can play with gender performativity, and give ourselves space to fail and enjoy failing, appreciate it's merits, so we can see what we want to get out of trying, explore the failures to see what we mean by success. I think we think of success and failure as opposites, but they're not, they come together; a famous businessman once said we're all failures - the opposite of success is doing nothing. I rather like that approach.