Hi @Sophia1 , I think that is great example of a boundary! Attending to requests at your own pace to give yourself the space to think/plan next steps is so important, especially in an online environment where there is 24/7 access to anyone anywhere.

@Faith-and-Hope , it's really excellent that you recognise your values and your priorities, and setting boundaries to make space and protect your commitments to them. In your first post you mentioned in that at times your boundaries have been ignored/ridiculed by others, which can be so hurtful and isolating. To honour your boundaries is to honour yourself, and I hope you have found comfort and strength in re-establishing them

@Former-Member , I can definitely relate to needing time to myself for self care. You're also right that communication is key! Setting boundaries alone can sometimes seem harsh or offensive to others, but when we have respectful and honest conversations about our boundaries and why we have them, we have the opportunity to create more respectful and honest relationships in the process.

I also personally highly value my education, my relationships and time alone. When I don't make time for these things, I can end up feeling anxious, overwhelmed and at times angry or regretful. The boundaries I've created to protect and honour my time and space for them, include having a strict schedule and often saying "no." to spontaneous plans/additonal work commitments. 

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