@Former-Member

Excellent reply. We need others in our lives too a certain degree. But not too the point where we are reliant on them. It's good to have stable and secure relationships. With a few different people. (Groups ). But it is also just as important too look after ourselves. Take care of ourselves. Live with ourselves. Deal with getting through each day on our own and dealing with reality in a proper manner. Dependant and depending when we turn to others as if they can fix us. And our issues it becomes toxic. We all got flaws and blemishes that ain't going anywhere. (Independence )

I'm hearing what you saying in the last message. Dependency on people is where we let ourselves down. No options. Not many people to rely on. Always turning to the same people gives them control over us and makes us become like them. So, people turn to others for company. Answers. To spend time with. To talk with. To share problems. The response you're getting is everything. Determines our future really. Then if, they turn bitter or spiteful toward you. Dilemmas dramas. Negative social dynamics unfold. Resentment. Jealousy. envy. And you are reliant on them. And they want you to be reliant on them. You're more or less at their mercy. And get entwined in this toxic scenario. A power and control struggle? Making sense? Words get said. People get hurt. People change. But for the better or worse? Does make sense?

Ya see mohill. I'm wanting to get on with life. Be in control of my thoughts. Emotions and actions. Look after myself. Do right bye myself. And a huge part of that is acceptance. Accepting that its not as it should be. And moving forward on to other things. My friends symbolise the less of two evils. Gotta always be aware of them though. Ya never know when a mood swings is coming.

Until next time

Eude