@Faith-and-Hope No you aren't challenging my boundaries at all. Have you looked at narcisstic personalities?

controlling etc. my visitor fits perfectly.

60 sounds a lot but some share their story and move into the background while others are out and about most of the time. Xstitch helps block the voices and we discuss things so they don't feel neglected. I had to draw the line with full footy matches, as I'm not the slightest bit interested. Now we watch the last 1/2 Hr, happy campers all round. It took years to pull down the wall that I had put up thinking they were out to get me. But I realised they came to save my life, why would that change now. I've seen some talk on tv about having a cleaner personality, I wish. I just have traumatised kids, and I move with that like any human being would. I've pushed for intergration, and worn myself out, it's not happening with me. Maybe I started too late?

I hope you realise how fantastic you are. You must care deeply ( you would say love) your husband so much, I have no doubt he cares (loves) you right back. That will bring you both through this, but you have to self care big time, even vanish for the occasional weekend if possible. 💜💜💜💜💜💜