Hi @Maggie .... 💕

My story is on a thread in C-forum, but makes for a marathon read by now. I have been in the forums for 18months, and have spent that time trying to find which way is up with what has happened to my husband. An mi has triggered in him ...... well one that rolled over from one eating disorder form to a new one that is far more rigid and aggressive. Along with it have come massive personality and values changes. I previously felt respected, appreciated, honoured and cared for / about. As the e.d. took hold and I tried to flag him to the problem, I became "the adversary" and someone who needed to be controlled, bound, and kept out of his way as the illness has continued to develop. It appears now that there is something co-existing with the e.d. that is hostile, like a body-guard over the new lifestyle he has carved out for himself.

It's not like that all the time. He is switching to an alternative identity that is charming, and another that is vulnerable and trying to be the best parent to our kids that he can. E, but treating them as though they are much younger than they are, and preventing their independence and maturation, switching to the extremely controlling mode if they look like breaking bounds.

It has crept up into the form it is now, and our defences have been worn down progressively.

I think you can see why I was trying to find out what I could about DID. I won't be able to work out what it is I think ..... this requires professional intervention.

Leaving, while and option, is anything but straight-forward, and the risks / potential ck sequences substantial.

Have to try this new path that has opened up, with a safety plan in the background.

Yes, the male-first ego is giant on this landscape at the moment ......

💜😔