Hello all. 

Exhausted, frustrated, sad mum of 24 year old daughter with BPD, anxiety, depression and potentially ADHD here.

Very intelligent young woman and in the rare occasion she is not splitting, she is a funny, caring and loving person. 

Not sure how to continue with her at home as the verbal abuse, lies, accusations and general mayhem is getting worse.  My heart breaks for her but she is unwilling to help herself. 

She tells me its all my fault, I don't help her enough, I need to make sure she eats well, has clean clothes and be there for her at the drop of a hat. Doesn't like that I have a career, husband, life or even 5 minutes to myself. 

Has self harmed, claimed suicidal actions and made threats. The police and ambulance services have been involved. She is always compliant with them, then nothing changes. 

I want to run away.