I'm glad I could be of support! 🙂
It's important to consider your wife at the end of the day as she is involved, and in order to manage as a family, it's important to work as a team.

You mentioned your wife does not want your daughters to see her out of normal behaviours - do they know about mum's diagnosis? I only ask because you stated you have to be careful what is shown and what they can see themselves, but because you are not the one portraying the out of normal behaviours - I'm curious what this looks like.

Yes, transparency is important, especially if your daughters are adults now, or have the ability and capacity to see and understand what is going on. I say this because I grew up in a household where one parent kept from me that the other had ill mental health, and it was very confusing to grow up thinking all their anger and shame was not only towards me, but about me, when that was absolutely not true - they just had personal struggles with depression and anxiety after a major operation. I wish my parents were more transparent in sharing what was going on with their health as it was not only visible but impacted the family unit and drew a wedge between us as no one had words or an understanding of what was going on.

Let me know where your thoughts are at.

Warmest,
PizzaMondo 🙂

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