@Shaz51 , thank you for sitting with me my lovely friend. I will have to try that, getting myself back to me. Yesterday I felt so happy, I think it was the effects of our puppy. Today I am fighting a cold and feeling run down and teary. I need to hold on to myself because I don't want to disappear.  Husband seems to be doing OK for now, calm at least and more engaged. Having the puppy has been good for him. He takes the time to toilet train him during the night and to train him for 10min each day. I walk puppy every day and the Sunshine has been good for me.

I hope we all see happier days...I start EMDR tomorrow.  Worried about all the costs. 2 psychologist and a couple psychologist, I hope we can afford it. I plan to have EMDR and then stop to see how I am feeling and coping.

Re. Retirement,  I wonder if Mr Shaz's therapist/mental health team can help prepare him. It is a big transition and it affects everyone differently.  Having a plan and encouraging him to pursue whatever interests he may have (within reason) might be a good start? I remember you mentioned he likes photography? Also looking at activities and courses for pensioners. At TAFE they are really discounted. My Dad is looking at starting one for $200. 

Some ideas...

Hugs to you my friend 🧡