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Awareness and where to start

  1. Hi I’ve just become pretty hyper aware of my different issues and the extent of my trauma and behaviour, a lot of it I already knew but I lied and suppressed a lot of it or have been hiding it at fault of mine amongst things that aren’t my fault, I’ve been panic researching everything related to these issues and I overlap with a whole range of disorders and it makes me worried for my progress and my relationship. I want to manage and unlearn my bad habits and I don’t know where to start it’s like picking out the perfect piece of grass to cut first from an overgrown lawn, stupid analogy but i think it shows how I’m thinking about it. 
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Re: Awareness and where to start

Hi @Quizlet, welcome to the forum.  I did a similar thing when I first started to figure out what my issues were and trying to fix them.  I looked up stuff on the internet, and found no end of theories and ideas and it became so overwhelming that I found I had less of an idea than when I began.

 

For me, I found just talking to people, at support groups and online in places like this especially, gave me a much clearer idea of what I needed to work on.  Talking to people who had similar issues allowed me to learn more about what mine were and a much better understanding of why I did things I did and felt the way I felt.  Once I had this better understanding I could then talk to people about specific problems and I felt much more 'normal'.. I hate that term, but less alone I guess.

 

I've been told by a couple of psychologists (Yes, I even tried that this year) that I tend to overthink things.  I realised they're right... to an extent.  I still think thinking a lot is helpful, but ive also realised that thinking a lot about too many things just makes everything unnecessarily difficult.

 

I started on a forum just like this one, so I think you've already made a great start by reaching out here.  So whether it's here or some other support you feel comfortable with, keep reaching out and talking to people about how you feel.  I feel like that's the one biggest thing that has helped me so far.