27-03-2018 07:26 PM
For us it can sometimes vary depending on who I am talking to @NikNik but I prefer to say that I support my wife rather than I am her carer. This thought was reinforced after reading an article titled caretaker or caregiver. For me the term carer tends to make my darling more dependent rather than my enabling her to be independent..
27-03-2018 07:28 PM
I think that the term carer is used to describe a lot of different roles, paid and unpaid, and feel that takes away some significance of the word for me and what I do if that makes sence?
27-03-2018 07:31 PM
how does the term 'carer' as a title resonate?--- ammmm @NikNik,
my Husband always says " I am not his Carer ", I am his wife that he can not do without
My mum sometimes says I am her carer but the family says " she is doing what a daughter should do , she is your daughter
27-03-2018 07:33 PM
27-03-2018 07:35 PM
27-03-2018 07:41 PM
I have mixed feelings in relation to the term carer.
I usually only refer to myself as Mr D's carer in medical circles (would do with Centrelink if required) but I prefer to think of myself as his wife.
I am in a similar frame of mind, I prefer to think of and refer to my darling as my wife,
even here on the forums I have made a consious shift from 'caring for' to 'supporting my wife'
I have difficulty seperating 'caring' responsibilities from my responsibilities as a husband, it is only in recent time that it was pointed out to me that what I was doing was over and above the role of a husband and that I was in fact in a 'carer' role.
27-03-2018 07:45 PM
very much so @NikNik.
27-03-2018 07:49 PM
I've often found myself having to explain what I do as a carer for a family member and people will usually still think it's the same as paid care workers.
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