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28-08-2022 10:47 PM
28-08-2022 10:47 PM
how to reframe an unflattering story about a family member
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29-08-2022 03:11 PM - edited 29-08-2022 11:06 PM
29-08-2022 03:11 PM - edited 29-08-2022 11:06 PM
Re: how to reframe an unflattering story about a family member
From my observation, I don't have issue with the way you phrased your family situation. It's not that uncommon to have elements of abuse in any family. Seems important to me to be able to have healthy discussions about life when living.
In situations like you describe, I sometimes like to add phrases like "there's complicated aspects" and/or "from my perspective". Those kind of qualifiers (or reminders) tend to both help with framing and demonstrate the will to consciously frame.
I like your commitment to doing things the right way. Tends to be a heck of a protective factor.
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29-08-2022 08:09 PM
29-08-2022 08:09 PM
Re: how to reframe an unflattering story about a family member
Heya @sol_87, nice to e-meet you!
Firstly, it sounds like, despite the impact your brother has had on you and your family, you have really strong values and principles that you don't want to cross. And that's a really big thing given the circumstances ❤️
I agree with @wellwellwellnez, I think they're great tips.
It sounds like it might be more within your values to speak about your own experiences and the impact your brother had on you, rather than him as a person. Have you heard of non-violent communication? There might be same useful things in the framework for that? Here is a link to a summary.
Is this useful for you?