Perfectionism

[heera72]

A perfectionist is one thing we have become today because of always being said that we are not good enough. It is not a flaw that we expect everything to be perfect, but that is just not going to do any more good for our lives. Perfectionism can cause problems like procrastination, making us focus on perfection rather than completing tasks, leading to burnout, lower productivity, poor mental health, making it difficult to make decisions, reduced creativity, making us avoid challenges, and having more strained relationships. It is by recognizing the problems that we can free ourselves from the constraints of perfectionism. 

[tyme]

Thank you for sharing these pearls of wisdom @heera72  🙂

[MJG017]

Hi @heera72 

I've never thought of myself of being a perfectionist or that this was behind my procrastination with almost everything.  I know i've always felt that need to try and prove to anyone willing to give me a chance that i'm good enough but always thought it was more that feeling that "maybe i'm not, so why bother."

But reading what you wrote, I thought about it and I think there's some truth in it.  When i'm asked to do something, I have always seen it as a way to prove myself... mainly so i get asked again, rather than abandoned is the core motivation i think.  Then I will procrastinate out of fear I can't do something good enough or to a level i want, so rather than just do something 'good enough' which i fear will be rejected I will procrastinate while i find ways to do it at a level i feel is acceptable... which a lot of the time turns out to be unrealistic.  So i think you're really on to something and it has given my a lot to think about so thank you.

[heera72]

Thank you, and I am happy that it was helpful for you to identify it. We often don't look into ourselves, and it is possible for us to not accept things that might not look like our traits, but deep within us, there might be things that we have to address and acknowledge.