Coming to terms with reality

[Appleblossom]

There you go @eudemonism you made me laugh.  Thanks, and I get your point.

Sometimes it can be good to "reverse roles". It is a psychodrama technique.

I used to have the hermit dream but became a mother and that was no longer viable, but if you dont have reasons against it and can find a little serenity that way.  Its great.  I can only be with you in spirit tho, and you can be back to solitude easily.

@Adek Thats a good plan. I went to my first Alumni event a month ago. It was wonderful, I made some friends and it was free and cutting edge.  It was great to feel stimulated and enthusiastic without being cut down.

Cheers All

[Shaz51]

Hello @Adek @Appleblossom @Vanessa5 @eudemonism, @Former-Member 

thank you @Adek, feeling a bit tird today , yes one step at a time my friend

[Vanessa5]

Hi @Appleblossom

Glad you and the others liked the Ruby Wax youtube.  I will post some links on MI and humour thread for sure. Thanks for letting me know about it.

[Adek]

@Former-Member i totally agree with you on that interpersonal skill vs mental illness. I believe that interpersonal skill is a learned ability which we lacked while growing up basically...in my case due to being orphaned and mom and siblings also being bipolar which contributed to the whole picture. Sitting with the scholars..academician.. philosophers apart from our normal psychiatrists and psychotherapists actually added more colours to our way of thinking and looking into life ventures from different angles.

@Appleblossom..perhaps u got me wrong on that Alumni thing. I actually avoided my ex-colleagus groups cuz they only knew the old "me" before my bipolar diagnosis 17 yrs ago....not the post diagnosis me. What i meant by scholars were academician, motivators, philosophers and even preachers who give talks in seminars and forums etc. And yes...am being selective and only attend the free or fully sponsored functions. These...needs a lot of sourcing online and when you get a hang of their schedules...you can easily fit in their routines and get free invitations as well.

[Adek]

And of course...this is what i meant by "Touch & Go...and not linger" the other day. Connects via hearts and minds..no strings tied..not much on physical or verbal contacts but in abundance of mind stimulating insights. It works for me..and keeping my sentiments in positive aura as much as possible..

[Appleblossom]

Thanks @AdekI will look at those other events.  It has taken 20 years (must have been busy) for me to get around to attending my first alumni event. Too long ago for any one to know me, not that I had time to hang with students much as I was a mum at the time and on strict time management.

Those other events would be open to everyone. which is great.  I think we do need brain food. It helps to be able to choose rather than be for ced to listen to things we dont believe.

[eudemonism]

Hi everyone @Former-Member @Adek @Appleblossom @Vanessa5 it's a very mental based ordeal for me. Like it is with all who have mental health issues i suppose. And it's the most incredibly frustrating feeling to be stuck with the merry go round and fish bowl effect. With literally no avenues of genuine help, care and support which elevates, eliminates or reduces the impact of the mental problems a person is going through. A very daunting task for anyone to undertake.

[eudemonism]

Even with all these supports in place. Ie. Doctors. Nurses. Support workers. Psychiatrists. Psychologists. Crisis lines. And facilitated mental illness social groups. (Which is kind of like being incarcerated and institutionalized!) The basic mental problems still remain the same. And nothing really changes. It all comes down to myself... they never fix or solve the problems. In turn keeping the patient trapped on the merry go round. And in the fish bowl effect. Essentially driving the human mad. And they all take home nice incomes from another person's problems, vulnerabilities and weaknesses. And their day to day lives are based around this scenario.

What a joke? And their main weapon against the ordeal is medication! Which disables the person all on it's own...... what a system?

[eudemonism]

The most amazing look i have seen on anyones face! Is a mental health system worker... when they realized their patient had recovered and was feeling happy, healthy and contented. I truly though. She is a spiteful and sinister lady. And she screwed me over after that. Big time! The same goes for all of them they attend work each day expected to be faced with another humans suffering. Which they think they have the answers too.

[eudemonism]

Its an evil game they play. I tell you that much right now.