Saying hi and reaching out..

[Alice10]

Hi all,

I was posting on Sane last year, around mid to late year, about trying to leave a DV relationship. I don't know if any members will remember, but I thought I'd say hello. So, what happened is this. I left in September last year, but went back to the relationship in January. I left again a week ago, and am staying with trusted family, who are helping me a lot. My other positive news I suppose.. is that I am nearly finished Term One of a Cert IV in Mental Health Peer Support at Tafe. It has been a real light in my life, as the teacher is inspirational. The class discussion and being among peers with lived experience is great too. 

I just wanted to I guess, reach out, as I'm experiencing some mild, but persistent, anxiety. I really just want to connect with others who might be having difficulties, but who are trying to be positive.

What strategies do other folk use who have anxiety based difficulties? And without wanting to pry - what have people out there found 'generally helpful' after (hopefully) leaving a DV relationship for the final time? Hope this message finds you all happy and positive on a Sunday night.. Cheers and thanks for reading.. Alice.

[tyme]

Hi @Alice10 ,

Yes I certainly do remember you.

I'm glad you hear you are staying with a trusted family. 

Honestly speaking, any relationship loss can stir up the feelings that come with grief. Grief has both physical and mental effects. 

If your case, due to DV, your grief may turn to relief - as long as you make space for both - to both grieve the loss, but to also move on.

The fact that you have started a Cert 4 in Peer Work shows you are already taking active steps to move on. It shows the acceptance that things are now different, and you are doing what you can to better yourself. 

Do you feel this is accurate?

You may be interested in this thread 2025 - study group  as there are a few other members also doing the same course at the moment.

We are here for you.

[Alice10]

@tyme
thanks so very much, and yes, it does resonate.. sitting up late doing an assignment right now lol... i didn't realise how much the course would change me... it's given me purpose, self esteem, and strength... thanks... i'll look up the link you included... Alice..

[Glisten]

Hi @Alice10  👋🏼 I remember you very well.

I was wondering what happened to you.

You asked, “What strategies do other folk use who have anxiety based difficulties?”

For me, it is the fear of the unknown and my lack of confidence in the decisions I make. This is a direct result of my DV relationship.

Ask for help. Go to TAFE Student Support Services and ask what they have that might help you.

[Alice10]

Thanks @Glisten
Nice of you to comment after long time x
Helpful post thank you so much, Alice10