I don't know how to help my husband's depression

[Jynx]

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@Shaz51 wrote:

Apart from the forums do you have someone to talk to about this situation? -- no @Till23 , @Jynx 

I was single for many years before getting married and becoming a wife and a step mum and having a business , but now are retired 

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Would have had such big impacts on your sense of self Shaz!! And then yeah having to learn to suppress your words is soooo hard. You deserve to be heard!!

[Shaz51]

@Till23 , @Jynx 

Not going to church anymore and I could not talk to anyone as It can go back to MIL and SIL and there is no one come to say hello 

D1 thinks I am coping OK 

I don't even here from my family anymore 

I so many thoughts swimming in my head at the moment 

How do I get myself back ? 

[Till23]

Oh @Shaz51 that sounds so isolating. It sounds like you live in a fairly small town/community so you have to be careful who to speak to, that's hard.

Do you have any professional support for your MH?

These forums are great to have at least some connection and support.

You have amazing resilience caring for your husband, dealing with your own medical problems and the weather on top of it all.  You're doing amazingly well considering that huge load.

[Jynx]

@Shaz51 aww hun, it's so hard when we have so much to say and no one to say it to. 

Would D1 be open to hearing that you're not so ok? 

[rav3n]

@Shaz51 that sounds rough!! i have full faith that you'll find yourself again with time. sending you gentle hugs 💙 i second Jynx's suggestion of talking to D1, you definitely deserve to be heard. 

also wanted to share pics of my cacti with you. when i walk around my garden, i remember all your lovely flowers. 

[Shaz51]

Thank you @rav3n , @Jynx , @Till23 😊

Your Cacti are beautiful 😍 @rav3n 

 

 

Saw my aunty today and she gave me a big hug 🫂 

[Till23]

How are you going @Shaz51 

I don’t have any cacti flowering at the moment but here is my capsicum that managed to ripen without getting eaten or stolen by the possum. I’m very happy with it 

 

 

[Shaz51]

@Till23 so pleased you got your capsicum ripened 

How do you like having your capsicum,  raw, cooked 

Only had 3 situations today which is good 

But hubby felt totally exhausted today so rest day today 

How are you today 

[Till23]

So am I @Shaz51 

I am going to fry it together with some onion, garlic, tomatoes and basil some diced chicken breast.

That's the things I can eat as part of my PET scan diet. I can't have pasta with it which I normally would. That will be the two meals in my 48hrs prior to scan ending with a 12 hr fast

I'm glad you were able to have a rest day sounded like you needed it.

I did my sport training early this morning, had breakfast with team. It was a nice day so did a load of washing, mowed my lawn, did some pruning, started organising my firewood for my winter fires - cutting up branches and chopping up some logs. Then took my elderly dog for a short walk and read a little bit of my book. So I had a productive day so I'm very happy. I feel as though I'm getting some of my energy back, which it seemed would never happen.

[Shaz51]

Well done for today my friend 🧡 @Till23 

All the best with your pet scan diet 

I see a dietician on Monday 

Going to see MIL tomorrow 

Mr shaz agree to take me to the plant nursery ( but ??? ) might not get there