Over The Edge

[Former-Member]

Hi @Maggie

A warm shower does help the pain - I am in it 24/7 and I aggravated my injuries by doing to much. It's driving me crazy being restricted so much. I am use to being more active. So my distress levels are high presently. I need more patience and resilience. I am also slightly scared of my ribs breaking and breathing collapsing if I push it. My poor husband has to do most things and he isn't well. Not a good situation.

But a bit of good did happen later today. My husband has been very compassionately (my perception was out) and caring, and we received a phone call stating the sale of the home that we attempted to secure a month or so ago (a long story) that we were gazumpted on we have once again retained. Contracts will be exchanged in the next few days. Thankfully the home will be built from scratch (it's off the plan) and we won't have to move until 12 months, so that gives me time to heal. So there was some good 😊 Along with your friendship which I see as a higher good. You, @Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Zoe7 are so close to my heart. I feel nothing but an overwhelming love when I think of you all. I just hope I can help you all as much as you have supported me these last few weeks, and unfortunately undoubtedly some weeks to come as I am still struggling.

I was so glad to read the post you sent as what was said there is what has kept me mentally stronger in the past. I just think when we are distressed and depressed we have more trouble believing it and there lyes the problem. I am feeling better now, just in so much pain. I have to write out a "day plan" to follow now where I make sure I don't over do it and make myself worse again. 

I hope your day was better my friend. Is it still cold your way? xxxx

[Zoe7]

Such great news about the house @Former-Member - that must be such a relief for you - I know how much it affected you when all this guzzumping happened 

I can completelt sympathise with you about the pain and not being able to do much (infact anything). I used to be very active before I got sick and I have never been as sick or fatigued in my life. It is definitely adding alot of stress on top of everything else and making it very difficult to 'get on top of things'.The physical pain and the emotional pain are feeding off each other - and I really don't know which is worse at times 

You are very close to my heart too @Former-Member - you have been there for me from the very beginning - been part of the 'team' that has helped me when I couldn't even help myself, encouraged me and supported me with your wisdom and kind words - and always shown friendship and love no matter how hopeless either of us have felt - that is a true friend and a true angel 

[Maggie]

@Former-Member That's good news about the house and the time you have to get ready. The move will be difficult, I've done it twice in the last 15mths, very stressful.

Your physical pain does sound severe, do you go to physio or is that too difficult. Somehow you have to try and take things easy. We see a little light and go full speed ahead, I do it all the time, a slow learner me thinks.

You said in another post you found psychs hard, I have found that also, one actually fell asleep during our session!!!!! I have found a really good social worker. Sometimes they are trained in specific areas. Just a thought as it would be good to be able to talk to a professional regarding your daughters situation. Anyway, just a thought.

You always help @Former-Member. You are kind understanding and always giving. I am always encouraged by your posts.

Yes it is still cold down here -4 yesterday morning, white thick frost.

Try to take things easy. Warm wishes my friend.

[Maggie]

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member @Maggie @Zoe7 @Former-Member @Adge .... 💜💕

[Former-Member]

Good Morning @Maggie

[Maggie]

Good morning @Former-Member

[Former-Member]

Hi @Zoe7@Maggie@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Former-Member@Adge

Hello my lovelies - how are you all doing today? I ended up having to take stronger pain killers and managed to sleep a whole lot better without nightmares which was lovely. Also took stronger anti-inflammatories - so feel better today. The sleep helped a lot even though I have to sleep on my back. I am still talking it easy. I think I push too hard before. It can be frustrating being able to do so little.

That is a good idea about the social worker re my daughter @Maggie I had been thinking about talking to someone about the situation there before my fall and then became distracted. Never thought of a social worker, that is someone I will actively pursue now as this still weighs on me heavily.

I can't see a physio until about 6 to 8 weeks due to pain. To my understanding they then can tell me what activities I can do so as not to re-injure. I think that is what I had been doing. 

Moving two times in 15 months would of been stressful!!! I do dislike moving, have moved around all my life. I am hoping this next move will be my last. It's by the ocean which has been a life long dream - just being able to step out for beach walks. Nature brings me alive 🙂 I just hope it is not clouded by grief with my daughter - hopefully she will have somewhere to stay by then as she can't come with us. And she is in debt currently....this cause me worry and spoils the joy of it somewhat.

You are very special to me @Maggie - you have been such a wonderful support. I am glad I have been able to give back to you some also. I am very honest in my postings - I never hold back so people can know the real me and trust is nurtured. My concern and care is genuine. 

Yesterday was a particularly bad day - it really shook me. Hopefully not too many more like that for a bit. Thank you for being there as I will always be there for you. Lots of love ❤️xx

[Former-Member]

Hi @Zoe7 and thank you for the beautiful post. I thought about it all night and it helped me to sleep easy. You are such a beautiful soul - I am becoming quite attached to you.

The go ahead with our new home did come as such a relief. I could not of taken another disappointment. We have been looking for nearly two years now to buy our dream house by the sea which has been prevented by foreign investors whom are really taking over the market where I live. Most are not permanent residents so can't understand how this is allowed to continue. I am not thinking of me so much here but fellow young Australians whom don't have a chance of securing home ownership here because of this - it shouldn't be allowed to continue as it is. It's a worry but for another day. We have enough of our own 😊

I did not know that you were also physically ill @Zoe7 This is such a blow.....Turns ones life upside down. It really does make it much more difficult to get on top of things - with new limitations to work on. And it does feed the emotional pain as distractions become more limited. A vicious cycle, I so empathise.

It then becomes knowing our limits and working towards them. Reinventing new goals. I am doing this now. At present I have reduce my volunteering to one day a week presently - hoping to gradually increase that when I feel more able. It does get me down, as like you I am use to being busier. And I am much happier when busier and occupied. I am missing simple things like my cross stitch which was great at keeping my mind distracted and worry free for a bit - I become more easily depressed then. So it can be a vicious cycle. I have to work out what I can do and make the most of it.

I was asked out for dinner again tonight but can't make it as I feel that would be pushing too hard too soon again. And I become down about that because I loose the chance to nurture friendships - which are important to me. Physical illness/injuries does make everything so much harder. But we will get there in time my friend. A bump in the road that we will overcome together. These things are certainly sent to try us!! I empathise with your burden.

You are such an intelligent, creative, kind, wise and giving person @Zoe7 You sometimes see things others do not. I hold you in such high regard and will never, ever forget you. You will always be in my heart and I will always be there for you. Never give up - you are a gift 💜xx

[Former-Member]

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

How are you today? Has you son settled a bit now? Your orange icon was clever - put a smile on my face, but yes, we do have to carry on. I am just working out at what speed presently as I am on the bed island again growing frustrated and trying not to get down. I suppose it's just a matter of time and patience. I hope your day is a good one. If not please never hesitate to share with us all here. You are very valued and important to us all 💕🌹