02-07-2024 09:41 PM
02-07-2024 09:41 PM
not much that was good @Glisten re learning fm her. not easy as she was in abusive marriage 50 plus years
after she departed (7 years ago now)
realised she was smarter than ever imagined, ok thought she was smart anyway
she was very polite, humble, giving, but let someone who was her lesser and could not have got anywhere without her walk all over her
02-07-2024 09:48 PM
02-07-2024 09:48 PM
@TAB that must have been horrible for you to watch!
Children of an abusive relationship are also victims.
02-07-2024 09:56 PM
02-07-2024 09:56 PM
also children of people w PTSD and other problems re father , plus the immigrant thing, plus chip on his shoulder /no ambition @Glisten he never really spoke to kids til older than 15
I put it to my mother once that neither of them were parents
her answer , oh well, you were fed and clothed ..
02-07-2024 10:20 PM
02-07-2024 10:20 PM
They are a difficult generation to connect with @TAB
Things that we wouldn’t phase us, were hugely controversial for them. Like divorce, second marriages, illegitimate children. Gay people having to pretend to be straight.
A generation of secret keepers they are/were. It would have been a tough life.
Little wonder that my adult children are all about healing generational trauma.
But little comfort for you as child not getting your emotional and psychologically needs met.
Would it have made a difference to you, if your mom said, that she was sorry?
Hugs
02-07-2024 10:27 PM
02-07-2024 10:27 PM
02-07-2024 10:29 PM
02-07-2024 10:29 PM
No. she was a bigger victim @Glisten maybe fi father said sorry. he had no clue though, and got feral last few years so stayed away
02-07-2024 10:29 PM
02-07-2024 10:50 PM
02-07-2024 10:50 PM
@ENKELI it’s a Vitamix. I think the fat base helps?
I put kefir ice, half avocado, banana, macha, - something sweet like pineapple, datas or honey.
02-07-2024 10:57 PM
02-07-2024 10:57 PM
@TAB I don’t blame you mate. I would have stayed away as well.
My nighty night meds have told me it’s time for sleep.
You get some good sleep big fella. Get your good self to the gym tomorrow.
bigs HUGS Tabby. You are good people.
02-07-2024 11:00 PM
02-07-2024 11:00 PM
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