Coming to terms with reality

[Adek]

Yes @Former-Member used to have.. Angora rabbits and Holland lops. The one i kept longest was a doe Angora with wryneck syndrom...she died last yr at 6 yrs old. No more now since nobody around to help me clean and take the carrier down to the basement carpark for outings or vet visits etc. Not easy having pets indoor on a condo though. Its prohibited actually.

Gardening..did so much of it before moving into town. Those were the good old days before i was down with fibromyalgia. Actually..i specialized in Botany during my first degree and did my thesis on antimicrobial activities of some local plants on some pathogenic bacteria. Used to have japanese rose, hydrangea, orchids, canna, camara etc in my garden.. but my favourites were heliconia and dracaena cuz they cultivate fast and fuss free. Planted green leafy vege & brinjals, ladies finger, angle bean, chillies, gingers, banana too 🌴. Ex also did hydroponics on red and green corals, butterheads, cucumbers, angle loofah, tomatoes and numerous herbs. We also sold them sometimes during sunday market when the harvest was overwhelming 😚😀. All thats left in our old hse is a mango and a pink guava trees. Cherished all these memories and opportunities. Thanks for bringing it up..😘

[A2Z]

Good day @Adek I hope all went well with the visit. Take care. 

@Adek @eudemonism @Appleblossom @Former-Member @Former-Member Hope you all had a good day. I was able to sort out the flourless cake and keep my world. Now I am working towards keeping a promise to myslef. To hid bet by 11:30 latest. 

Wishing you all a great evening. 

Talk to all later. 🙂 

[A2Z]

Good day @Adek I hope all went well with the visit. Take care. 

@Adek@eudemonism@Appleblossom @Former-Member @Former-Member Hope you all had a good day. I was able to sort out the flourless cake and keep my world. Now I am working towards keeping a promise to myslef. To hid bet by 11:30 latest.

Wishing you all a great evening. 

Talk to all later. 🙂

[Appleblossom]

WOW @Adek Fall on floor with respect.

You have rich experiences and knowledge base.

Maybe you managed your ex better than I did.  I had a whole different and too complicated experience to go in to.  I am only realising now, how different from the "norm" it was. I spent too long trying to "take responsibility" and heal and make a family. It was not meant to be and I had a wry neck foran enormous time.  We did not have pets as a child and I am not great with animals, but I tried; rabbits, fish, cats, dog.  Now just my 2 x16 yo male cats .. and learning lots more at the zoo.

Today I chatted to a nurse and was proud that I raised my 3 with only a couple of ED visits, which is pretty good considering some families tales ...

Hey tonight I went to a lecture by an expert for free in my old uni.  The theatre had not changed in 30 years.  I have not been in the field since then either so a bit of it went over my head but most of it I caught.  Its fascinating how memory works and the associations start to flow.

I had started taking advantage of my alumni newsletters anyway, but I thought you might be happy to know.  It was on Evolution of the Lithosphere.

Your thesis sounds fascinating.  You can start different threads and conversations as you like in the different sections of the forum.

@eudemonism

Have you done much camping or travelling around??

[Adek]

Hi @A2Z. Had a lengthy discussion with my therapist on self defense mechanism. I brought up 3-4 methods and she ended up giving me 15 which i am yet to study the handout she had given me before our session ended. It had always been great with her and looking forward to our next meet. Nite dear..wondered what they used to substitute flour in cakes..🤔🤗

[Adek]

Hi @Appleblossom. Am so happy for you.. and knowing that you made it to the talks etc. Am sure u will have new experiences now on..meeting old friends and new people will always bring new vibes around us. I hope u will enjoy yourself in days to come. Btw...whats ED? Its nit the 'ED' dysfunction that i know isn't it? 🤔😅

[Appleblossom]

lol @Adek I was thinking broken bones and Emergency Department, (not for M H issues.) 

I always wished I had done nursing as I found live wriggling bodies tricky.

Yes it is a different phase of life.  I am going to log off, not sure about your time zone, but have a good Night all, and @eudemonism

and

@A2Z @Former-Member @Former-Member

and whoever else is reading.

[Former-Member]

Hello @eudemonism

I forgot to answer about goals I want to achieve before christmas?

A good question.....I haven't even thought about goals in the last 12 months...

so thank you for reminding me of the fact.....having goals are good

I need to put into plan some short-term goals...also long term goals

these days I think that I will have plan b handy as well.....I used to do all of this automatically ....time management...goal planning at work

it is remarkable how quickly self- organisation and self-care can disappear when mental illness takes over again

so have to have a self- care plan as well as goals.....I have started on this

I certainly wanted to spend some more time at the beach....near the ocean

my husband and I are going away for a week in december and will be near a river and ocean....looking forward to smelling  that sea water - getting in some lovely  walks

We did take my mum for a drive last weekend....we take her to the foreshore where she sits in the front seat of the car and watches the ocean and passersby....she is very frail  and prefers to stay in the car...hoping that might change in the warmer weather if she is up to it of course...it is also meaningful for mum and also because the three of us, including my sister, scattered my dad's ashes there, discreetly, in 1999.

long term goals.....I want to find some volunteer work that I enjoy where I am not sitting or standing around doing nothing for most of the time....this is my goal for next year

As for camping.....I love camping .......out where there are no other people.......starry nights.....love it

downside....husband hates it....

@Adek you have had a couple of appointments lately how are you?

@Appleblossom hope that you and your son are finding life easier too

hello to all of you passing by

[Adek]

Good morning, i am good @Former-Member and how are you? @eudemonism i hope you are coping and distracting yourself either with sleep, music, movies, deep breathing, streching.. anything at all that helps u relax. Just hang in there..that phase will pass. Good morning to you too @Appleblossom @A2Z. I hope you will all have a nice and blessed weekend...

[eudemonism]

Good morning @Appleblossom @Adek @Former-Member @A2Z @Former-Member and @Vanessa5 well, life never seems to stop challenging me with some sort of dilemmas, dramas or social dynamics im just a bit unsure of.

All is reasonably well though i suppose.

I enjoy reading litreture i can relate to and actually helps my prospective and attitude and gives me a level playing field as everyone else and against the world. Instead of being used as leverage for people to rise their pitiful selves about society. Or being looked down upon for being myself. So people can have a chuckle to themselves. None of these types like it when the tables have turned. (Tasted their own medicine ) and its something to beware of when dealing with anybody. Its not a case of we in this together or we all equal. Its a case of whos better then who. So in that sense. I just do my own thing and step back from the fire. And use my own ways to help me get through. Its a never ending cycle though. I must say.

Take care all and have a great day.