Dear StanD

[TAB]

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@StanD 

[Appleblossom]

Hey Bella @StanD You can be beautiful and not need to be sexy.... all the time!

Glad you have done the physical part of the move, but yeah it takes a hellava long time for a place to become a home.  Sounds like its enough and a start.

Glad you have the cats for company.  MY son has asked me to get another and we will probably do it as a project together in the new year when I am back from a long train trip.  God help me I survive it.  Was gonna go sleeper but all sold out. We will see ... eeeeegh! Maybe I will spend it walking the aisle.  Anyway trip is for a good purpose.  Hope it does not wreck me back.

Hearing you about the sense of rootlessness of being in a new place and a new area and all that.  Gentle Hugs and wild pacing of the floor... and dont forget to do a shimmy and a dance when you are cleaning and unpacking.

Loved that you apologised for labelling ... eg " No swearing, fighting, 'junkies' (sorry that is a terrible label that I dislike) - tho where I had been living, I don't know how else to describe to give property picture. There was lots of crime in previous neighbourhood, not uncommon to hear yelling & near the station - yeh, well ..."   Thats very like me.  Yes part of my heart will always be on the street, but the street is a very hard and very cruel place.  I never want to be a judgy budgie.  The reality is when things are tough and mean, people get tough and mean. I see it as a response to living conditions than a permanent feature of a person.

Hear are some sooper dooper soft towels to mop up your sobbing.  Hope your bed is cosy and the right temperature.  

One step at a time.  Find the closest supermarket. Find the chemist.  Change is hard. Its not enough to say oh .. You are resilient.  I have done it so many times I do not really want to have to do it again.  You had to do it. No choice.  Let your loveliness slowly envelope your new space.

Love Apple

[Appleblossom]

@StanD Love that you posted this ...

"

Magpies are dominant bird here.

I can tell that even the birds have more relaxed, chilled vibe than previous address! Weird huh."

Makes my heart sing.

[Former-Member]

Hello @StanD moving is a major life stressor. Having to acclimatise to a new environment entails a certain level of disruption.

During the pandemic both Coles and Woolies put out apps where you could see which aisles your shopping was in to get in and out quickly to avoid covid bugs. 

It will save you stress at the supermarket. The apps will locate your nearest store you intend to shop in and will show you where to go in each aisle for getting your food. The apps went viral during the pandemic because people needed to get in and out quickly.

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/exwoolies-store-workers-solution-to-crazy-aisl...

Even if you are not familiar with the store this app with expedite the process 

Moving house can make folk feel ungrounded so your root chakra which governs your foundations in life may need some extra care. If you are feeling flighty then balancing this chakra will give you much needed stability and stop you feeling all over the place. It will get rid of destabilising energy you may be feeling and restore balance. You could always go ahead and balance all chakras - that would be even better but this will give you much needed strength and security.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cubdsAyhaRw

[Patches59]

Hi @StanD  I moved into my current home at start of October this year into an over 55s village, one of the biggest, scariest, mentally stressful decision I made.  

I can understand you saying about not knowing where shops etc are and the comfort of knowing where everything was near previous address.  Moving and finding location of everything in new area is stressful for anyone.  Parts of the advice my psychologist gave me “Rome wasn’t built in one day”…. “Do things at your pace and take time for yourself everyday”.

cats are such wonderful company and, same as humans, need some time to settle into their new home.  I’ve got 2 cats who both hid for first couple of days and then slowly started spending less time in the bedroom and more time in the lounge.  They still don’t like being at home on their own, thank goodness for cat treats 😺.  

you mentioned about everyone being friendly …. Maybe one of them could help with information about local pharmacy, supermarkets.  I’m gradually learning what places are near me by asking my neighbours.  Another option could be doing online search for closest pharmacy and phoning them and talking with the pharmacist.

Your new home and the surroundings sound lovely. Hoping you get the opportunity to sit outside or go for a walk in the nearby area. Give yourself and your fur baby time to settle in and enjoy your new home.  Due to Covid so much information from supermarkets and other businesses is accessible online which can be a help.

[NatureLover]

Hi @StanD , am so happy for you about your happiness at having your own place and a roof over your head! And at all the good things about it 🙂

At the same time I can relate to your anxiety and sense of dislocation, which I think is to be expected. 

It will take time but I am sending wishes for you to adjust quickly 🤞

[StanD]

@TAB @Bunniekins & everyone only 9 days between replies.

And I only read page 1 so far.

Thankyou for writing me everyone.

Update incoming.

I'm not sure if you are being funny or wrong link miss pea, but I didn't see/hear acoustic ...🤔 I love Eminem❤️

Acoustic. I'm confused. Meh

Love you allxxxx 

THANKYOU 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

P,S it's been really difficult 🥺

[StanD]

To my dear sweet Apple @Appleblossom 

If ever I needed a Mum ...

I am reading your letter for the first time now. 

You care about me. I can see it, feel it. It's the most beautiful feeling in the world. I love you.

I think this is one of the nicest, most meaningful letters I have ever been given. Including, audible letters!

Yep, you've been where I'm at, & can understand, "the struggle is real.'

I have not one thing to complain about.

I think you all understand, I'm not doing that .

Sharing. Reaching out.

Okaaay- this train trip sounds phenomenal. What are you doing? Where are you going? How will you sleep? How many days is it? Is it v- line?

I loved your opening line - re: all the time. 

I'm getting it back. Maybe it was lots of fear, & fear is very gently subsiding. 

@TAB @Appleblossom it's funny you mentioned the boxes TAB - I may have done 4 absolute essentials?! There is so much to do every single day. And when there is not - I value my rest. I'm yet to check out the shops. I'm very excited to say they have a crystal shop @Former-Member ! 

It's not like the big shopping centres that I'm used to..

It's very cute, I live kind of opposite to a "General Store'. That is different.

Yes I am in agreeance that the suffering people endure will change a person for the worst.

Not always. 

I guess what I'm saying, is no matter what, we have personal choice to be kind. Perhaps, on the streets being kind will get you punched! ..... Yes & no. It's complicated issue. 

Believe.

Thankyou for my super soft towels. I love them.

Stay Apple 🍏 Always

[Appleblossom]

@StanD Hugs

Its weird, in some ways we really are 

IN SYNCH

My train trip is to a NSW regional town to do a music week. We stay in a boarding school and all meals and accom paid for so we only worry about playing music from 9 til 9.  For a whole week!

Gotta get thru Chrissie first.  

Getting house in order and all that.  Trying to find a vegan version of nannas Christmas recipe. Cos my Chrissie visitors are vegan and atheist.  A life full of ironies.

Hope the settling happens. It is always gradual. Its the nature of the "settling in" "beast".

[StanD]

Hello @tyme are you there? I sent you an email. I need my friend, please.