Thank you @DOT2. I try.
It does sound like you are both doing everything you can for yourselves and I commend that totally 💞
I cannot shout to the hills loud enough that if the relationship is "that bad" that the kids are being affected detrimentally then dig deep and leave. I did and it took a long time to have the courage but it's taken equally as long to "repair" the damage caused.
@Smile82 in answer to your question, no you are not selfish, you have one life to live..
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