I was reading your post and hoping someone would respond with answers to your questions as they are also my questions.
My partner went undiagnosed for 30 years. A year into our relationship and I put together the pieces, got him to see an excellent specialist. He was a lot more stable on the first round of drugs but after 6 months (without a relapse into his addiction) he secretly took himself off the medication. It's been 9 months of random behaviour and me not being allowed to mention his mental health or medication.
He's new GP put him on another drug and it's really not working.
I have no idea if I can and should tell him what to take. He's family offers no support.
And he keeps his secrets so I can't make him take his pills in the long run.
I really feel for you. You're not alone and you're not asking too much to have your needs and feelings respected.
best of luck to you and baby!
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