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30-10-2016 08:26 PM
30-10-2016 08:26 PM
PND or relationship mismatch
Hi all. I recently came accross PANDA as I have a sneaking suspicion that I might have a moderate form of PND. However I am also contemplating whether it is just the fact that I am no longer in love with my partner and having a baby has made me seriously reevaluate our relationship. I also wonder whether both may be in fact be 2 separate issues. In short, I have always been anxious and irritable since bub was born 14mths ago and do find parentling overwhelming at times (but not all the time). Until recently, I could never leave my son, and if i did, I felt that I needed to be there. I also dont treat my partner the way he deserves and find myself picking at anything he does. I have recently acknowledged that my behaivor is not acceptable and that I have been so caught up that i have lost myself in the process. I am now exercising almost everyday like I used to (which feels great) and am trying real hard to hold back on commenting on every little thing my partner does. I hate they way I have treated my partner and have spoken to him about it. I have also spoken to him about some other underlying issues that we have discussed before having a child that were not sitting right with me. I did accept that he isnt perfect (nor am I), but these things still irritate me and maybe having the stress of a child together has bought them to to forefront again. We are not married, and if he were to ask, right now I would say no. This scares me ALOT as I am left wondering whether this means he's not the man for me. Or is it PND? Or is it both!? so this is where I am at. I am in no way depressed, however I am obviously hurting over the consideration of leaving my partner and my son being left with a broken family (something I personally know about). I have been very open with my partner about all of the above and we are making an effort to try and get ourselves back on track. I am not seeking advice (Im going to go to my GP for that) but I just want to hear other people's thoughts/experiences. TIA
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30-10-2016 10:00 PM
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31-10-2016 12:44 PM
31-10-2016 12:44 PM
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I think the only way to really work this out is to go and talk it through with a specialist. A counselor or psychologist who has experience in both PND and relationship issues.
Your gp will be able to refer you to a psychologist under the free medicare scheme. Be as honest as you can with your gp - so he/she knows who best to refer you to.
In the meantime, don't make any decisions about your relationship. Wait until you are 100% certain that it is over before leaving. As your relationship may be able to be saved and strengthened.
Have a look around our forum. There are posts on relationships and on struggling with young children. They may offer you some further ideas.
I wish you all the very best.
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01-11-2016 03:57 PM
01-11-2016 03:57 PM
Re: PND or relationship mismatch
Hi @Maz1
Welcome to the Forums 🙂
Just to add to the others' responses, this month we are hosting a Topic Tuesday on Emotional wellbeing for parents, which will feature PANDA.
I thought it might be of interest.
Take care
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